Newbie w/ Question - Panties at Night?

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Newbie w/ Question - Panties at Night?
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 1:21pm
My DD just turned 5 in April and is going on 15! Question....her bottom has been irretated lately so I have had her not wear panties to bed at night. I grew up this way and have heard that it helps your area to 'freshen' during the night. DH has no problem w/ me not wearing them (wonder why? :) ) but says DD should. She climbs in bed w/ us sometimes and when he goes and puts her back he is carrying her w/ her bare bottom. I can understand his feelings but he doesn't think it's normal not to wear panties at night and reminded me the other night that 'times have changed'. DD has gotten use to not wearing them and her problems have gone away which I contribute to the change. I told her she can go w/o but MUST stay in her own bed and put the panties on first thing in the morning. What is your opinion?

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 2:26pm
Well,

In our household it wouldn't be a question, with two older boys at home it is definitely panties. As far as your daughter I would agree with your husband and tell her that panties are a must if she is going to come into your room. If she doesn't want to wear panties, how about a pair of loose jammie bottoms? My girls just love them.


Karla,Sarah,and Abby

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Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 05-15-2003 - 2:46pm
IMHO, I have to agree with your DH and say that she should absolutely be wearing panties. If she still has the personal problem, buy her a pair of loose fitting pajama pants. They are the latest rage for slumber parties and sleepovers and my girls love them.

I have a five year old also and would not be comfortable letting her sleep without her panties. Of course, I have two boys to think about also. I don't let them run around in their undies either. I am also ridiculously paranoid about fires and emergencies.

Konnie, Elizabeth and Rebekah

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 3:17pm
Seem to be the odd man (woman) out here. My Dd never wears panties to bed. Well, she has on occassion started that way, but they start to bug her and off they go. She is 8. Mind you, we have no boys in the house but I know even at her Dad's she doesn't wear panties, she wears a nightie. I never wore them as a kid to bed either.

I think your DH is over-reacting if at 5 he is worried about seeing her naked butt. She's just a little kid. What if he has to supervise her bath when you are away? Would he refuse to do it? (And I wouldn't leave a 5 year old completely on their own at bathtime.)

I guess each family has its own feelings about what's comfortable concerning nudity. For me its not a big deal, but if it really bothers your husband I agree with getting some two piece pajama outfits, then she'll be covered, but not as tightly as panties.

Tam

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 7:33pm
I am offended. I responded to a post and gave what I thought was a sensible response. It was not gender-biased nor was it oppressive by any means. I simply do not understand why someone would be HOSTILE to a MODEST, yet still effective, solution to a possible medical problem.

I am shocked that someone thinks a father that wants to instill modesty into his daughter needs counseling. Why? What is wrong with that? I teach all of my children--my boys and girls--to be modest. Is not modesty a virtue among all societies?

I am older than many mothers, I am a college graduate, I have many female friends with daughters of their own, I worked for years at all-girl camps, and I have NEVER heard of allowing children of EITHER sex to wander through the house at night without underclothing.

My solution to wear loose clothing seems totally appropriate, and I stand by it!

Konnie

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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 8:29pm
I am with thegymmom...I think modesty is a good thing for males and females. I have never ever had a gyno tell me to go without panties..I have been told to wear cotton panties but never "no panties". My husband don't like to have to pick our eight year up with a bear bottom..and he doesn't need counseling for that!! Also I can not believe how harsh some of the women on this board speak over someone else's views!!
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 9:39pm
I cannot believe that my post led to such discussion of my DH needing counseling. Thank you to those of you that gave your opinion on the subject with no further questions regarding DHs or my morales and values. I have been a member of PP for a few years and have met many friends on the boards. I came to this board as a newbie hoping to make friends and get advise. Instead, because of my one post and the hostility toward each other I do not think this is a board I want to be part of. I asked for opinions and I certainly got them. Thank you to those that did not judge my family and those with the ideas of pajama bottoms. I was thinking of that before and probably will go buy some.....for now though, my DD will have the choice to wear or not wear panties at night.
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Thu, 05-15-2003 - 10:27pm
I have not been here long but this really is a friendly board. I have also been with PP for several years and occasionally I see this happen on other boards. Please do not let that keep you away from this board. Other than the hostile blast from one poster, I found this conversation interesting. We'd like to see you again.


Karla,Sarah,and Abby

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Fri, 05-16-2003 - 12:14pm
With my DD, if she's wearing jammies that have bottoms or shorts with them, then she goes sans undies. However, if it's a night gown, then she has to wear them.

Not sure if this helps, but thats what we do.

Welcome to the board by the way.

Lisa with Justin (15) Rachel (4) and Victoria (15 Months)

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Sun, 05-18-2003 - 3:50pm
I realize I am a late-comer to this topic, but I just wanted to say that I have been a part of this board for a very long time and I don't think I have ever seen hostility here, so I hope that you will not leave us. We have a lot of new faces, but, of the ones I have known for long, everyone is respectful of the other person's views...even when she does not agree. In the several posts before this one, I didn't see a response that I felt was inappropriate or hostile either. And most certainly not a "radical, fundamentalist Muslim society" type of post! Jeeze! I don't think modestly is radical.... Wow. Anyway, I also don't really see a problem with NOT wearing panties to bed if someone so chooses not to. Just my opinion, but I would hope that if someone in the family has an issue with it, then possibly the person might try to repect that (or be taught to) and put something on before moving around the house. Regardless of "values" everyone has the right to feel one way or another on any given issue and, again my opinion, I think that should be respected when possible.

I've never been told by my OBGYN to not wear panties to bed at all...and he has never said I shouldn't wear them during the daytime. This is really new to me! I've been wearing them all my life, to bed and during the daytime, and maybe I'm lucky, but I've never experienced any problems from doing so. In fact, I think I've only had one yeast infection ever..and that was after taking some antibiotics. Anyway, that is very interesting to me and I'd like to see some more on this type of topic. Having a daughter, I'd really like to know more about these things. Just because my experience has been one thing, doesn't ensure hers will be the same.

Thanks for starting this post! I know that there are so many different opinions out there and some may not be what you want to hear, but it makes us all think! And I think we can also learn to be respectful of one another's opinions.... even when we disagree. Please stick around!

Brenda

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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 1:44pm
For what it's worth (yeah yeah.. been MIA) Catherine wears her panties at night. In fact, that's ALL she wears most night.. LOL. My nudist. DH was suggesting that she should be panty-free, but I said no. I always wore panties as a child..

Corinna

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