Nocturnal daughter :(

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Nocturnal daughter :(
Mon, 07-07-2003 - 9:17pm
Hey there,

My daughter is only six years old, but she's already turning very nocturnal. I know it runs in the family, because my husband and I are exactly the same, that's why we're both sat here at three in the morning, not even remotely tired!

And even though I know why she does it (whether it's actually in her genes, or whether we've somehow raised her to be like this), it doesn't make it any easier to get her out of the habit. My parents never stopped me when I was younger, they never really tried, and as a result, whenever the school holidays came along I would sleep from five or six in the morning till three in the afternoon. I would probably still do that now if the kids didn't get me up at the crack of dawn. I don't want my daughter turning the same way as I have, but I honestly don't know what to do!!!

Right now we're in our summer house, and our study is on the kids' corridor, so we know when they're up and about, and she has passed by three times in the last hour, wandering around! We never really knew the extent of the problem in our other house because we weren't there to see it! I'm so desperate just to get her to sleep normally! Has anyone had any similar experiences?

Anyway, thanks for hearing me out :), just venting I guess.


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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 9:34am
Hi Jaime,

One of my kids is a night owl. He was born that way. No matter how hard we try, we can't change him. We could probably force him to be something he isn't but it isn't going to help him in the long run. He just isn't a day person and doesn't look like he ever will be. We homeschool and I let him do his major assignments at night. His work is perfect when he is allowed to work on it at night but his day time work is messy and usually full of errors. Around about dinner time every evening he seems to come "alive". When the rest of us are wanting to start slowing down he is picking up speed and he is scurrying about singing and starting his projects or whatever. He has been this way since birth and I nearly went out of my mind trying to get him on a schedule so I could get sleep when he was a baby.It only half worked and we both were miserable a lot. Thankfully my husband had a night job(hours he struggled with as he is not a night person)and he stayed up with him a lot when he got off in the wee hours.

We just tell ourselves you can't fit a square peg into a round hole. I'm thankful my son is a unique individual and some day someone may be so happy that he is a night owl when he is the ER Dr. on at 3:00 AM or the Police Officer on duty all night or the Late shift Factory Supervisor.......

Just my thoughts.


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Registered: 05-26-2004
Tue, 07-08-2003 - 10:10am
I have one of those nocturnal children. She has always been weirdly awake all night long. Even as a baby she would just lay quietly awake and watch me sleep.

As she got older I had to set definite bed times and stick with them. I also have to make her get up in the morning and I stick to that schedule constantly.

She is 10 years old now and she is doing okay with her bedtime routine but would prefer it if she could stay up all night long.

One thing that has helped is that I told her she could read for one hour before she turns out the light. She is a fabulous reader now and I know it is because she MUST read in order to get to bed.

That is just one suggestion. Hope it helps. Konnie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 07-09-2003 - 1:46pm
Possibly a solution? Have you tried Melatonin? you can get it at most stores that sell vitamins and supplements. It's the stuff your body produces to help you sleep. I've started giving my 4 year old this (she's on Meds for ADD too) to help her settle down before bedtime. It's NOT a's NOT a sedative...I give her 1 tablet 20 minutes before bedtime and she crawls into bed and is out by the end of her 30min short movie. It really has worked wonders for us.