Sharing household chores

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Sharing household chores
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Tue, 11-22-2011 - 5:06pm

Everyone's working, caring for the children, running around trying to get things done, and you're noticing that there maybe some uneven distribution of household chores and other tasks. How can you ensure that everything is fair, so that you both have time to recuperate?

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 11-24-2011 - 12:41am
Since my kids are older, they are expected to be able to everything! My dh has always hellped me though, it makes everyone in a better mood!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 3:34pm

My kids help out some as they are older but getting them at home to help out is sometimes a problem.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Mon, 11-28-2011 - 8:34pm
This is a topic that won't go away in our house. DD19 thinks that since she is in college and works a part time job, that she's good. She doesn't have to help. Her idea of "cleaning" the bathroom is picking up, but not using any cleaning products. LoL!!! So I know that we really need to keep working on this. DD10 has to have minute details when she is asked to do something. This one drives me nuts. And now their Gma is getting in on the subject and telling DH and I that we have DD10 do more than DD19 does and that DD19 is acting like a princess. Well Gma you didn't make them do anything when they lived with you, so this is what we get now. We are working on it, but being in a constant arguement about cleaning is not exactly a nice thing to be in. :0) So while we try to keep it fair it's not always easy.

KRISTIE
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Tue, 11-29-2011 - 10:55am

Tough one!!

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 7:44pm
Oh, you are so right. They play dumb about so much when it comes to chores!! Even DD10 does this too. Ugh!!!! hehehehehe We do the argue bit at times. it's just definately not fun.
KRISTIE
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 11-30-2011 - 11:48pm
I get that too. I was a stay at home mom for 12 year and dh was home for 2 years. He will let them get away with that junk. I work only 3 to 4 days a week and I make them do chores and if they do a bad job, then it is obvious that they need practice and then they get assigned that chore for a long time. They like it better when the chores rotate.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 08-30-2002
Thu, 12-01-2011 - 4:24pm

What I am having a hard time with ,is that my husband expects my dd to pick up her stuff, but he doesen't pick up his stuff. He's not terribly messy, but, he takes his clothes off after work and piles them by his chair. Or he eats snacks and sets the stuff on his table, next to his chair and doesen't take it back to the kitchen. I am a SAHM, so I don't mind doing the majority of household chores, but I am not a maid. Plus, it's hard to tell a 7 yo, you have to pick up your clothes and put them in the laundry, or take your dishes back to the kitchen



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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 12-02-2011 - 4:07pm

We had that situation once....my hubby would pick up his dishes and put them on the counter above the dishwasher while requiring our son to put his IN the dishwasher.