The Surprising Bedtime Story Decision Parents Today Are Making

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Registered: 08-25-2000
The Surprising Bedtime Story Decision Parents Today Are Making
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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 10:11am

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Well, since they are preschoolers - I agree these stories are too hard for them to understand. I'd wait a few years and then let them enjoy these movies. Disney has a villian in every movie. Even Winnie the Pooh has it's own down graded version of a villian. I recently was watching The Help and YSD(11) was watching it with us. I was glad we didn't get to far into it before it was her bed time. I finished watching it and decided it was too adult for her. We'll dig it back out in a couple of years. I don't want my daughter to see a woman getting beat on by police because of her skin color. She truely has no clue of this type of racism. She didn't understand why all kids didn't go to school together. Since YSD is 11, she's sceen and read all of the classic fairy tales and Disney movies. She can understand the concept of death and the deifference between make believe and real life. I think that is when these movies are more appropriate.
KRISTIE
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Registered: 12-16-2003
I did! These people are nuts, though growing up with the very scary German tales, I still wake up in a start if my hands or feet go over the edge of the bed. There were too many Strummelpeter (Messy Peter) stories in my past. But, without the tragidies, the main charecter is not as sympathetic.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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I think this is so silly!

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Registered: 08-30-2002

We tended to read stories like Baby Angels, Maggies Moon and Guess How Much I Love You? when she was a pre-schooler. The Classic princess stories I always ended with "then they went to the ball/prom, picked really good colleges, got really good jobs and lived happliy ever after." A bit of Mommy editing. KWIM?

We don't have a TV, so we really were able to pick and choose what dd watched. The Secret Garden and Black Beauty were her favorites. We talked about what happened to Mary's parents and how animals should be treated.

She's in second grade and was asking me about where I had lived when I was a little girl. I had moved from Cali to Georgia in third grade. I told her about how the whole playground stopped when I went over to play jumprope with the little black girls. She asked why. I told her because when I was a little girl, in the South, little white girls and little black girls didn't play together and there was something called the Civil Rights Movement going on. It turned into a teaching moment. She has attended daycare and grown-up with multi-cultural families. In Cali I had lived in a very diverse neighborhood. She thought it was really sad that I wasn't allowed to play jumprope with the little black girls. I'll introduce her to things like The Help, The Color Purple, etc. at more age appropriate times.

We have found fairytales about the Baba Yaga and VassaLisa that aren't terrifying. In fact the BabaYaga is kind of a joke in our house. We tell our bird to get in her cage at night or the Babayaga will get her. LOL! Dd has never been afraid of anything under her bed, or ghosts or the like. But we talk about any ghosts in our house being friendly, because the old couple that lived here and built the house were really nice people.

I think the only fears dd has expressed was back in Kindergarten, when she had some separation nightmares. Dreams about not being able to find me, but she even worked those out by finding a teacher or someone else she trusted. I think we can instill confidence in our kids and stories won't rock them so much. No, I won't be showing her Friday the 13th, but we read all kinds of literature to her.



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Registered: 12-16-2003
What classic stories are the rest of you reading? Just asking? We read a lot of Cinderella, Hansel and Gretel, etc... My teens are both in honors classes and dd is attending college with a nice academic scholarship, so I guess they survived.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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We've read The Secret Garden (more than once, she loves it) Charlottes Web (she's reading it again on her own right now,) The Wizard of Oz (you know the shoes are really silver?,) The Jungle Book, Winnie The Pooh, Then I Was Six (poetry,) Short stories-



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Registered: 12-16-2003
But those are not classic fairy tales. The article was about preschool classic stories. My kids read a lot of children's literature as well, but not ar three.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Us too!

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Registered: 08-30-2002

Maybe different generations? But Winnie teh Pooh, Charlottes Web, Wizard of Oz and a Secret Garden are all from my childhood. I wrote in another post that I read dd the princess stories and edited the end. The original article mentions The Lion King, which I don't consider a classic at all.



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Registered: 12-16-2003
The Lion King is a tale from Africa. I consider Charlottes Web and such as classic children's literature. But, to me, a fairy tale is something you sit and read in 15 minutes or so before bed to a little kid. Wizard of Oz, Harry Potter, etc...you read to older kids who like the wait for the next chapter, not a 3 year old. This article was about the old classic fairy tales. I read all the Harry Potter books except the last two outloud for ds but not at age 3. He was about 5 or 6 then.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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