Teaching Character Traits?

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Teaching Character Traits?
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Wed, 02-16-2011 - 10:00am

I just wondered how you all might teach your girls about character traits. I know one elementary school nearby will have on it's sign - This month's trait is Honesty. So, do you rely on the schools to teach these things or do you use life experiences to teach (when something comes up IRL or on the news or a movie) or something else.

Being a homeschooler, I can't really count on the schools and I try to use life experiences when they happen, I just wondered if you might do something else in addition to those tools available.


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Registered: 08-25-2000
Wed, 02-16-2011 - 10:29am

I just talk...if something comes on the radio, in the newspaper, or on TV we talk about it.

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Wed, 02-16-2011 - 3:11pm
we definately can't depend on the schools, so I definately bring things up when they come up. Sometimes it works better to bring them up a day or two later when things are not so tense if it is a stressful situation. DD10 is a tender heart, so sometimes she's not sure how to take things when I tell her there is a better way to do something. She thinks I'm telling her she was bad and then she gets upset. She's getting it that I'm not, but it's taken a while. Graciousness is something that we've been working on. DD10 had some books on manners and character traits when she was younger. I wish we could find some more that were geared toward her age and not so obvious. Sometimes I think it is good to just absorb things. You know - when we are around good things, we see them, hear them, and can react in a good way too.
KRISTIE
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Wed, 02-16-2011 - 11:20pm
We talk all the time. We listen to the radio, read the paper, and talk about what is going on. We attend church, so that is often a conversation starter. I don't expect schools to teach this, reinforce it yes, but teach it, not really. That is my job.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 10-28-2005
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 7:32am

It seems a shame that so many people are making the news in one way or another by having what we consider bad traits. But, it's good for us that they give us so many opportunities!

I like the idea of a book, Kristie. I think I might like to track something like that down :)


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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:51am

We probably don't pay enough specific attention

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 10:25am

Lately this has come up a lot!

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Wed, 02-23-2011 - 8:18pm

One we had come up in the last few months was discernment. Using insight and good judgement, which isn't always easy for a six year old. It came up because we were at a park, we frequent, with her cousin. She has never had a problem with another child at this park, but this day a boy came up to me and told me my daughter had thrown his soda. This was so out of character for her. I made her go apologize. Infortunately my SIL said "I can't make my dd apologize, if she doesen't want to." Personally, if my dd wouldn't apologize, we would have left. We've been back to the park multiple times since, and had no problems.

So later, I talked to dd about the incident. It was sort of her and her cousin egging each other on. (I'll give a little more



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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 5:16am
"I'm always asking her....would you talk to your friends this way?? Would you treat your friends like that???"

That's what I say to DH!! At work he is very persuasive and so gets the best out of people who wwork with him. He does not do that with DD - he just expects her to do what he asks first time.
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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 9:39am

sounds like good lessons for your daughter to learn early!

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Thu, 02-24-2011 - 9:40am

Must be a dad trait Moss as my hubby does the same thing!

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