Teens and Tatoos

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Teens and Tatoos
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:16pm

Your teenage daughter wants a tattoo.

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Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 9:37pm

SImple answer, no, not under my roof!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 08-30-2002
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 11:10am

I have tattoos, so my daughter see's them as normal. I didn't get mine until my mid-30's, after some really difficult life changes, and a lot of meditation about it. I have told her this. My tattoos aren't "body art," they have more meaning than that. They cover scars from a life altering emergency surgery. My husband, at the time, (now ex) basically abandoned me in the hospital because I came out of surgery partially paralyzed and no longer fit his image of what he wanted in a wife. So much for in sickness and health, right? Many people see their scars as badges of courage. Every time I looked at mine I saw something I didn't have a choice in. Looking at my scars didn't make me feel like I was courageous and a survivor, it just brought up all the ugliness and helplessness of that time. I have a water lily because they rise of from the dark and the mud to become a beautiful flower. I also have a symbol that represents "strength."

So, when my dd asks about tattoos, I tell her she can get one when she's 36, like me. But I let her wear fake tattoos any time. In fact, I hope she'll go with that option because she can change them with her outfits.She's a real fashionista, so she likes to mix things up a little.

I don't really care how my tats look when I'm "old." My dad has tats and he's 80 and they look just fine, in spite of the fact he no longer has the Popeye arms of his youth.



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