Your teenage daughter wants a tattoo.
I have tattoos, so my daughter see's them as normal. I didn't get mine until my mid-30's, after some really difficult life changes, and a lot of meditation about it. I have told her this. My tattoos aren't "body art," they have more meaning than that. They cover scars from a life altering emergency surgery. My husband, at the time, (now ex) basically abandoned me in the hospital because I came out of surgery partially paralyzed and no longer fit his image of what he wanted in a wife. So much for in sickness and health, right? Many people see their scars as badges of courage. Every time I looked at mine I saw something I didn't have a choice in. Looking at my scars didn't make me feel like I was courageous and a survivor, it just brought up all the ugliness and helplessness of that time. I have a water lily because they rise of from the dark and the mud to become a beautiful flower. I also have a symbol that represents "strength."
So, when my dd asks about tattoos, I tell her she can get one when she's 36, like me. But I let her wear fake tattoos any time. In fact, I hope she'll go with that option because she can change them with her outfits.She's a real fashionista, so she likes to mix things up a little.
I don't really care how my tats look when I'm "old." My dad has tats and he's 80 and they look just fine, in spite of the fact he no longer has the Popeye arms of his youth.
SImple answer, no, not under my roof!!
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
I don't want my teens to lie and go behind my back, much like how my parents felt about me and my siblings getting tattoos (and piercings)
My parents' rules were:
No piercings (besides the ones we got as babies) until we were 13 and ONLY the ear
No other piercings until we were 18 and could afford it
Not tattoos until we were 18 and could afford it.
It really gave us time to think about it, that and my parents didn't tell me NO, they just said we will have a time to get one. When the time came, they made sure we went somewhere that was clean! Not some backdoor jobs where they use drug needles sterilized by lighter flames, disease and infection all over the place.
I want my kids to know that tattoos are a BIG decision. Sure you can remove them, but it is very painful and will scar you for LIFE. The tattoo is gone, the scar is there. I got my first tattoo at 18 on my lower abdoment (so it is covered up in a bikini) and I do plan on getting more. I personally enjoy it. As long as it's not something random and stupid (like my name, why do people feel the need to tattoo their own names??!!)
Now that is interesting Moss!
It's against DH and DD's religion to have a tattoo as it means they are not clean (so as a consequence can never pray or go on pilgrimage)
I just saw this and it just sickens me.....what are we teaching our young girls.....
What do you think about Barbie's new ink?
I just saw a news segment on tatoo