Teens and Tatoos

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Teens and Tatoos
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Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:16pm

Your teenage daughter wants a tattoo.

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Registered: 08-30-2002
Fri, 11-04-2011 - 11:10am

I have tattoos, so my daughter see's them as normal. I didn't get mine until my mid-30's, after some really difficult life changes, and a lot of meditation about it. I have told her this. My tattoos aren't "body art," they have more meaning than that. They cover scars from a life altering emergency surgery. My husband, at the time, (now ex) basically abandoned me in the hospital because I came out of surgery partially paralyzed and no longer fit his image of what he wanted in a wife. So much for in sickness and health, right? Many people see their scars as badges of courage. Every time I looked at mine I saw something I didn't have a choice in. Looking at my scars didn't make me feel like I was courageous and a survivor, it just brought up all the ugliness and helplessness of that time. I have a water lily because they rise of from the dark and the mud to become a beautiful flower. I also have a symbol that represents "strength."

So, when my dd asks about tattoos, I tell her she can get one when she's 36, like me. But I let her wear fake tattoos any time. In fact, I hope she'll go with that option because she can change them with her outfits.She's a real fashionista, so she likes to mix things up a little.

I don't really care how my tats look when I'm "old." My dad has tats and he's 80 and they look just fine, in spite of the fact he no longer has the Popeye arms of his youth.



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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 9:37pm

SImple answer, no, not under my roof!!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 10-28-2011 - 4:22pm

Great thoughts!

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Registered: 02-22-2011
Thu, 10-27-2011 - 5:50pm

I don't want my teens to lie and go behind my back, much like how my parents felt about me and my siblings getting tattoos (and piercings)

My parents' rules were:

No piercings (besides the ones we got as babies) until we were 13 and ONLY the ear

No other piercings until we were 18 and could afford it

Not tattoos until we were 18 and could afford it.

It really gave us time to think about it, that and my parents didn't tell me NO, they just said we will have a time to get one. When the time came, they made sure we went somewhere that was clean! Not some backdoor jobs where they use drug needles sterilized by lighter flames, disease and infection all over the place.

I want my kids to know that tattoos are a BIG decision. Sure you can remove them, but it is very painful and will scar you for LIFE. The tattoo is gone, the scar is there. I got my first tattoo at 18 on my lower abdoment (so it is covered up in a bikini) and I do plan on getting more. I personally enjoy it. As long as it's not something random and stupid (like my name, why do people feel the need to tattoo their own names??!!)

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 8:18pm

Now that is interesting Moss!

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Registered: 06-06-2002
Sun, 10-23-2011 - 6:08pm

It's against DH and DD's religion to have a tattoo as it means they are not clean (so as a consequence can never pray or go on pilgrimage)

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Sat, 10-22-2011 - 5:31pm
DD10 is almost done with Barbies. I won't be getting her one of these!!
KRISTIE
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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 9:19pm

I just saw this and it just sickens me.....what are we teaching our young girls.....

What do you think about Barbie's new ink?

http://www.ivillage.com/tokidoki-barbie-has-tattoo/6-a-394735?ice=iv:mb:msg:js

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Registered: 08-25-2000
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 9:05pm

I just saw a news segment on tatoo

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Fri, 10-21-2011 - 2:03pm
DD19 has been wanting a tatoo for a while now. She knows we don't like the idea so a week or so ago she puts on facebook "piercing or tatoo?" and a bunch of us said neither (she got all kinds of razzing over this one) and my sister said remember it won't look the same at 50. Then one lady that works at her old HS says "I"m 50 and my tatoos look great". I couldn't believe she stepped in and said that to someone elses kid!!! And she works with teenager all day long. Not exactly what I'd say is a good influence.
KRISTIE

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