Ten year old help

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Registered: 03-02-2013
Ten year old help
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Sat, 03-02-2013 - 1:33am

Okay I do remember being a teenager but I don't remember wanting to hide in my room 24 hours a day listening to music, texting, facebook, and FaceTime on the iPad. We used to play board games, shop, go out to eat, and was able to talk about anything. Now it's like mom don't exist and when I mention how much I miss her and how I'd like to spend more time with her, she just gets mad and will hide from me. She won't talk to me hardly about anything. She is a good child. She makes honor roll, she has good choice of friends, she is talkative and popular because she has a sweet personality, she will do as a say but of course be mad at me for telling her what to do. I need to know how much time online with her friends and in her room is enough. I would just feel bad telling her she can't be in her room when she is doing nothing wrong. I just want to see her. I really miss her and I'm afraid if she spends too much time away from adults she won't learn what she needs to. I'm afraid if she won't talk to me about anything she is going through that she will be rebellious or worse. She is just ten almost 11. Please help me. Thanks,

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 10:45am
Great idea Ramona!!
Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 10:47pm

Eat dinner together. It is a great way to spend time. Cook, clean and eat together. My kids had tons of chores, clubs and sports. But we still take time to eat together.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

Community Leader
Registered: 12-16-2003
Thu, 03-07-2013 - 10:47pm

Eat dinner together. It is a great way to spend time. Cook, clean and eat together. My kids had tons of chores, clubs and sports. But we still take time to eat together.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2000
Sun, 03-03-2013 - 6:28pm

Personally I think that 10 years old is way too young to be doing all this stuff in their rooms.  Until my kids were 13 they didn't even have a TV in their room....computer was shared and in the family room, and the ipad wasn't thought about yet!  I think that I would have a time limit on how much screen time she can have.......1 hour or so a day is what she should be doing.  Also she needs to get out and play and socialize!  Find activities and chores that she needs to do to get her out of her room and being with people.  Not only should she be spending time with you, but she should also be spending time actually playing with friends.  One of the major causes of childhood obesity is too much screen time....TV, computer, ipads, etc.  Kids need to get out and play....not spend all day in their rooms.  Also I would be sure to collect these electronic devices at the end of the day....kids are so tempted to stay up after hours and use them.  Good luck and let us know how things are going and what worked for you!