my dd 17
h my gosh...
thank you thank you thank you!!
and also.. my heart goes out to YOU... boy what YOU have been through,, and she is you SD???
We are treating my dd just like yours.she is not allowed anywhere alone... cannot stay in the house alone.. etc..
I like your idea of giving her what seems to be choices.
She says HE does not want to come to our house.. but again.. that is a choice.
We will let them go for Pizza alone next week to the Pizza place.. as it is a public place.. and then home.
I like your idea of HIM having to deal with us as my DH will not stand for disrespect.
she wanted to meet him on the corner and we said NO... he must come to the door - to get her.. we just won't be near the door... but he must get her at the door.
I got her on BC right after as i do not want any accidents... I told her I DID not want another kid.. MINE or HERS>
I guess i just want to know "this too shall pass"""
thank you so much...
So sorry that this has taken me so long to get back to you, but I have been going through a lot lately and didn't have the time to write a thoughtful message to you!
I don't have any adive to give as my DD is only 11.
thank you for the post..
I do agree with you..
i am so walking on a fence between people who tell me i am too strict.. vs not being strick enough??
when they do go for pizza they walk.. it is 4 blocks away in a "strip mall" (bunch of stores in a line)
very very popluated area... and they walk there and back.. of course no cars...
i am thrilled my dd does not have a license.. and i don't know if he got his yet.. but my dd knows the answer would be no.
His killing himself antics were last summer.. (my dd says he does not bring that up anymore - but i don't know)
I just still have not seen anything i like about this boy.. and i am trying to work with her counsler to understand this all better..
the counsler thinks i may need to start "letting go" and trusting her more since she just turned 17...
my other problem.. he lives right around the block.. literally..
I'm so glad you're getting some great advice here. I'm like Mott in that I don't have to worry about dating just yet but I know it's going to be a challenge when we get there!
She is too close to being 18 IMHO, you have to tread carefully now. My brother is still trying to make amends with his 19DD who moved out at 18 because he said 'no' to her jerk of a boyfriend. I like the idea of letting them date a little but a chaperone would be nice ;-) I don't like that he keeps telling her how awful you are though!
I hope you'll come here often and let us know how things are going. I'm sure having been through so much already, you can offer some of us some help with other problems.
Sending lots of hugs!
Trust me I do understand about being a mean mom!