What would you do??

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Registered: 08-25-2000
What would you do??
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Tue, 12-27-2011 - 8:35pm

Your teenage daughter has a boyfriend that you hate.

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Wed, 12-28-2011 - 9:34pm
Well, if you complain about him, then all your going to achieve is arguements. Perhaps just looking for the positives and talking to her about what she sees in him? It would be hard though!

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Thu, 12-29-2011 - 9:47am

I've not had the boyfriend that I hate....but I did have the girlfriend.

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Fri, 12-30-2011 - 2:02pm
Boy have we been in this situation and not only once! One time it was just 100% inappropriate for SD19 to be with her BF, so we put a stop to it and baby sat her for a while. She was so angery with us, but it passed. The second time, we didn't speak out, but hind sight being what it is, told us that we should have spoken up earlier. I thought SD19 was going to get back with this second guy and I straight up told her that I still don't like him. It sounds like he's turning around, but I'm not convinced yet. Thankfully that passed and I don' t even think she's seen him over break yet. (big sigh of relief!!!) So I think we have to do the best we can to judge what is safe for our kids and what isn't and being honest but gentle is really really important!!
KRISTIE
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Fri, 12-30-2011 - 5:42pm

Kids think that they know everything....when we can see that they are making a horrible mistake.;