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Sat, 05-03-2014 - 6:49pm

I appreaciate all the input and comments. It is challenge, with not all the desired optioins available when they are need but we as parents do the best we can. Cause that is all we can do.

Happy Mother's day to all the amazing mothers out there.

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I am nota parent but saw your post on the main page. I have two good friends whose sons are on the spectrum, one severe and one who sounds similar to your son...bright but not social. I apologize in advance if I use terminology that is not the best - I know there are strong preferences a out the words used when discussing learning differences but I am not always sure what is preferred. Also, my Ipad doesn't make paragraphs on Ivillage.....so I seem to run on and on...anyway, do you think your social issues may mean you are also somewhere on the Spectrum? Some coaching for you might be helpful either way. I would discuss your concerns with your family. They may be able to make specific suggestions based on their knowledge of you. You might also be able to arrange some family visits this summer if there is a younger cousin or maybe someone could stay for a few weeks to help get you started. Extended family may also be able to identify someone in your area who could specifically help with this..understanding that you are looking for interaction for your son without necessarily a lot of adult friendship. You in return might pay for outings with the other family or provide some other non social service in return. I also suggest you discuss this with your son's school support team...teachers, counselors, etc. One of my friends takes her son to a 'play group' where social skills are actively taught....her daughter is very social and her son questioned why he didn't have play dates and so cooperates in this activity because he wants the outcome. Another option is to think about whether there is an older person among your acquaintances who would like to be a 'grandparent' to your son. If he has special interests, perhaps someone to mentor him and just be special. My friend's father has a special relationship with her son and provides an additional source of support and companionship for him. And lastly, what are your plans for his summer? There are camps and programs that work with children's needs and interests. This is something else the school should help with. I hope parents with experience respond to you, but those are a few ideas which I hope help. Best wishes.
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In order for your son to reach his full potential, he needs a comprehensive treatment plan, and a COMMITTED ADVOCATE, who will help the child get the most out of treatment by working hand-in-hand with the autism treatment team and following through with the therapy at home.  It is extremely important to do your research, talk to autism treatment experts, and ask questions.  The goal of autism treatment should be to treat all of your child's symptoms and needs. This often requires a combined treatment approach that takes advantage of many different types of therapy,  including behavior therapy, speech-language therapy, play-based therapy, physical therapy, occupational therapy, and nutritional therapy.

An 10 year old child who's verbal skills are only at AGE 3-4, pre-school level, cannot be communicating well at school, learning a great deal, or preparing to live independently.  Does he sign?  Do you sign?  How do the teachers communicate with him?  How do other people communicate with him? What interventions are recommended by the school?  By his therapists?  By his IEP team?  What are his IEP goals?  Has he made adequate yearly progress?  What happens if he does not make progress?  Do you know?  What therapies are you doing at home?  How often does he engage in behavior therapy, speech-language therapy, play-based therapy, physical therapy, occupational therapy, etc, etc?

IF YOU ARE UNABLE TO DO THIS, THEN HIRE SOMEONE WHO CAN--A NANNY OR AU PAIR WITH PEDIATRIC DEVELOPMENT EDUCATION.  OR SURRENDER YOUR CHILD TO FAMILY MEMBERS WHO WILL GIVE YOUR CHILD ALL THE TREATMENT HE NEEDS.