16 year old boy and dating. Wife and I disagree
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|Fri, 05-16-2014 - 11:55am|
Here are the facts:
16 year old responsable son, but has lied before about differant things, nothing more than the average teenage stuff. Other than that very responsable good kid. However he has very low self estem. Very type B.
Likes a girl that comes from a broken home with not much parental involvment. Mother is gone away a lot for work and dad kind of involved. She is more or less taking care of herself. She is a very nice girl that is smart and gets along very well with our son.
Our son is getting a lot of presure to date her in a steady relationship from her as well as friends. He wants to as well. Here is the rub. My wife is getting a very bad feeling about it. She likes the girl but feels that with the lack of family supervision, the situation would deteriorate into a very bad area. I disagreed but I got a I am a mother and I know things talking to. I see where there is getting to be some preasure from other kids, thier parents who know both kids, and also the girls mom came up and introduced herself to us for this relationship. I thought she was just being nice but my wife was thinking more into it. My wife feels with our son's self estem issues he would just go along with the flow and would be draged into family issues and other areas such as premarital sex, etc..... She feels that this girl and family would be the type to "do anything" to hold onto our boy. He is a good catch from a family that has some money (percieved). I think she is a little out there but I do some some validity in her thoughts.
I feel bad for my son and for this girl. They have done nothing wrong. My wife and I had a talk with our son and told him he should probably not date her and told him why. I did not agree with my wife but for the sake of peace in the house I went along with it. I feel horable about this. I guess I am looking for either, your wife is right go with it, or else a you are right stick up for your son.
Any thoughts would be greatly apreciated from other mothers out there.