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|Sun, 07-06-2014 - 11:12pm|
My name is Kay and I have a 19 year old daughter and a 17 year old daughter. I found out my 17 year old daughter is having sex with her boyfriend. She has not known him long at all (2 months) and I am very concerned that she is having sex this quickly. Not to mention the lies she has told, etc. Honestly, I almost don't think I know her anymore with the way she is acting. My 19 year old found a pregnancy test in her purse (it was negative thankfully). She is *Very* grounded. I have also talked to her extensively about what she is doing and how harmful it is. I had my husband talk to her one on one. My 19 year old has talked to her. I don't think we are getting it through her thick head that she is making a huge mistake. I told her that she is grounded not only for lying, but also because I am her mom and I have to protect her since she is not protecting herself (sexually, her heart, her reputation, etc) .
So, the practical side of me went online tonight and bought condoms and Plan B. I have an appointment with the gynechologist, but I could not get her in for a couple of weeks. The other side of me feels like I am condoning her behavior by buying all of this! The practical side tells me I don't want to be a grandma--the other side tells me to send her to a private Christiam all girls school. I just don't know what I am doing here and I am pretty much a nervous wreck.
I need perspective!!