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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:23pm
but still need some concrete answers. i am basically family-less (other than dh and my 4 kids). my mother is non existant. i've come to realize she never really wanted kids. it's not just a 'negative' feeling i have, it's the truth. long story. plus she is not even in state. fine. my dad is in state but comes once a month when he wants to feel 'grandfatherly'. my dh's family is all nuts and they live in another state anyways. so it's just us. the holidays are very dreary. we don't have tons of friends, as most people here seem to not want to 'deal with' parents with more than 2 kids, etc. i have one friend and she's pretty nice who puts up with me and my 'large' family. but i am looking to find a more family type grandmother/father figure for the kids. i know we have ourselves. it just kinda gets lonely at the holidays. sitting at home by ourselves, etc. granted, we have a good time, talk, etc. but i think it would be so much more if we had others to invite over or be invited over to others houses. any ideas/thoughts?
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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: nikimcn
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 1:52am
Where are you from?
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Registered: 12-12-1997
In reply to: nikimcn
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:31am
I'd talk to a nursing or assisted living place, if there is one near you. I'm sure there are lots of people there who don't have many kids or friends near them and would love an adopted family to share the holidays with. Once you have a name, go introduce yourself, get to know them, and, maybe not this year, but certainly next, I'm betting you, and they, will feel comfortable enough with each other to share the holidays.

Or find a homeles shelter near you, or a shelter for abused women and children. Someplace you can share your holiday spirit by serving a meal, handing out gifts, whatever they need you to do for those who are less fortunate than your family is. That might not give you and your kids the "grandmother/father" experience you are looking for, but I know it would give others a good feeling, and probably would make you feel pretty good, too.


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Registered: 03-24-2004
In reply to: nikimcn
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:53am
AZ why?
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Registered: 06-02-2003
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:59am

I agree with Ann.