How good are you at this??

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Wed, 02-22-2012 - 5:24pm

How good are you at expressing your wants & needs from other people in an assertive way?

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 2:21pm

thanks...too bad I have not seen a real pink bird except for flamingos

good on doing the lesson and learning Diane.

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 2:25pm

I too am afraid to say things to people. i just get upset and tell grant, then he says why didnt you tell them off...well....

I think a lot comes from my childhood. my mom was always the strong one in the family. She could be physically and mentally hurtful. My sis was an angel in her eyes. she said dad had me and she wanted someone. So i think that is part of why i sometime have no brass b**ls. I take a lot from people.

Then the 4th marriage...you start to think maybe you are unloveable. mom said so too after every divorce...so YOU have to build up YOU!

Then all the other stuff...continued mom, inlaws, kids, sick kids, husband contantly out of work, health...it goes on and on...then a breakdown

Did you know i have trouble answering the phone? I will pace by it some times and not want to answer it. Calling people can be just as hard. Even the kids at times. Arliss is the same. thomas can be too.

As many of you may notice i dont go to the local coffee shop. never have here. i think i become more of a hermit all the time.

If someone drives by slowly i will go in the house.

i laugh when i shouldnt, cry very easily...it goes on and on

my new biggest fear is they say they are raising the retirement age to 67. well dh is 6 years older. If they do this he will have to work an extra 6 years or i may have to go back to work. I could not work...just couldnt...just thinking about it lately gives me the runs or makes me want to puke. thats how bad my nerves are now. dh even had to go to the last year of parent teacher interviews without me. grad was hard enough.

I may have to have a couple drinks at the wedding to loosten me up a bit

So you could say i very much understand what you are going through

Hard to believe i was a boss at one time. breakdowns will do that for a person

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 2:53pm
If you wrote it in black then yes,
Otherwise no, LOL
Staying silent sometimes is safer but ..




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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 5:10pm
veercan2005 wrote:

I too am afraid to say things to people. i just get upset and tell grant, then he says why didnt you tell them off...well....

I think a lot comes from my childhood. my mom was always the strong one in the family. She could be physically and mentally hurtful. My sis was an angel in her eyes. she said dad had me and she wanted someone. So i think that is part of why i sometime have no brass b**ls. I take a lot from people.

Then the 4th marriage...you start to think maybe you are unloveable. mom said so too after every divorce...so YOU have to build up YOU!

Then all the other stuff...continued mom, inlaws, kids, sick kids, husband contantly out of work, health...it goes on and on...then a breakdown

Did you know i have trouble answering the phone? I will pace by it some times and not want to answer it. Calling people can be just as hard. Even the kids at times. Arliss is the same. thomas can be too.

As many of you may notice i dont go to the local coffee shop. never have here. i think i become more of a hermit all the time.

If someone drives by slowly i will go in the house.

i laugh when i shouldnt, cry very easily...it goes on and on

my new biggest fear is they say they are raising the retirement age to 67. well dh is 6 years older. If they do this he will have to work an extra 6 years or i may have to go back to work. I could not work...just couldnt...just thinking about it lately gives me the runs or makes me want to puke. thats how bad my nerves are now. dh even had to go to the last year of parent teacher interviews without me. grad was hard enough.

I may have to have a couple drinks at the wedding to loosten me up a bit

So you could say i very much understand what you are going through

Hard to believe i was a boss at one time. breakdowns will do that for a person

veercan2005 wrote:

I too am afraid to say things to people. i just get upset and tell grant, then he says why didnt you tell them off...well....

I think a lot comes from my childhood. my mom was always the strong one in the family. She could be physically and mentally hurtful. My sis was an angel in her eyes. she said dad had me and she wanted someone. So i think that is part of why i sometime have no brass b**ls. I take a lot from people.

Then the 4th marriage...you start to think maybe you are unloveable. mom said so too after every divorce...so YOU have to build up YOU!

Then all the other stuff...continued mom, inlaws, kids, sick kids, husband contantly out of work, health...it goes on and on...then a breakdown

Did you know i have trouble answering the phone? I will pace by it some times and not want to answer it. Calling people can be just as hard. Even the kids at times. Arliss is the same. thomas can be too.

As many of you may notice i dont go to the local coffee shop. never have here. i think i become more of a hermit all the time.

If someone drives by slowly i will go in the house.

i laugh when i shouldnt, cry very easily...it goes on and on

my new biggest fear is they say they are raising the retirement age to 67. well dh is 6 years older. If they do this he will have to work an extra 6 years or i may have to go back to work. I could not work...just couldnt...just thinking about it lately gives me the runs or makes me want to puke. thats how bad my nerves are now. dh even had to go to the last year of parent teacher interviews without me. grad was hard enough.

I may have to have a couple drinks at the wedding to loosten me up a bit

So you could say i very much understand what you are going through

Hard to believe i was a boss at one time. breakdowns will do that for a person

I get it, Glenda - pretty cruel stuff there.
I have a hard time answering the phone too - I have a block on it most of the time & can change passwords.

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 5:14pm
hugss wrote:
If you wrote it in black then yes,
Otherwise no, LOL
Staying silent sometimes is safer but ..
hugss wrote:
If you wrote it in black then yes,
Otherwise no, LOL
Staying silent sometimes is safer but ..

I tend to stay silent.

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Registered: 04-25-2011
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 5:40pm

I totally understand your backround - a tremendous of people have these issues to deal with. I was in therapy for about 6 years starting in my late 20's til about my early 30's.

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Thu, 02-23-2012 - 6:48pm
jammin2bach wrote:
hugss wrote:
If you wrote it in black then yes,
Otherwise no, LOL
Staying silent sometimes is safer but ..
hugss wrote:
If you wrote it in black then yes,
Otherwise no, LOL
Staying silent sometimes is safer but ..

I tend to stay silent.




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Registered: 10-16-2002
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 10:08pm

The caseworker's job is to help ensure any benefits a person has continue without interruption - a problem I had just this year and am still paying for.

Other than that, to help with about anything the client needs help with -

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Registered: 04-25-2011
Fri, 02-24-2012 - 3:59pm

Okay - I totally got it and I would request a new one sooner rather than later because it is your right...........her behavior is unacceptable to say the least

I have a feeling you can confront this woman all you want and it will get you no where (just based on your description)

I would assume you also have the right too see their credentials.

Also, Ithink I miscommunited something to you re therapy.

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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 5:53pm
chamadar wrote:

Okay - I totally got it and I would request a new one sooner rather than later because it is your right...........her behavior is unacceptable to say the least

I have a feeling you can confront this woman all you want and it will get you no where (just based on your description)

I could bypass talking to her and go directly to the coordinator - confronting her is my choice - however there will be someone with me (T) to make sure I am heard, without interruption or backlash.

Today was the "team" meeting so by now she knows what is going to happen.

I'll see T on Wednesday and we'll schedule a time to meet.

I would assume you also have the right too see their credentials.

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