My girls are pushing me over the edge!!!
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|Mon, 12-27-2004 - 12:06am|
I am at the end of my ropes and was looking for a site to vent my frustration and figure out how to deal with my 2 daughters (ages 4 & 6). I didn't find what I was loking for but when I found this time out for me I figured I'd give it a go and see what you wonderful women can advise me to do!!!!
I love my daughters dearly, as any mother does, but I am so stressed with what to do as far as getting them to respect and listen to me that I am at the end of the ropes. My main gripe with the girls is trying to get them to pick up their room and just clean up after themselves in general. I am not expecting them to go in their room and deep clean, I just want the basics done. They have a big rubbermaid tub that all of their toys go in so I am not expecting them to sort by Barbies, Strawberry Shortcake and Polley Pockets. They are very distructive, we freshly painted their room this summer, and hung up hooks on their walls, decorated the dressers and fixed up their room. They weren't home for a week and they had marked up the walls and dressers and tore the hooks off the walls. I have folded their laundry and their closet is FULL of dresses, they will go in and pull everything out of the dresser and gut the closet.....then I have to rewash most of it because they spill something in their room or their dirty clothes get mixed in. I have taken their toys away, threatened to make them spend the day on their beds, everything I can think of, my husband has done all of this too but we are both just at a total loss. My daughters preschool teacher's suggestion is "Pick your fights." But I am wanting to teach them responsibility and they aren't learning by me just going in and picking it up for them, they take it for granted.
My oldest daughter Ashleigh turned 6 in September and in her younger days we thought she would be our difficult child. She is very head strong and set in her ways but she has been outshined by her younger sister in this department. I think Ashleigh would do much better if she and Caitlynn (our youngest) had seperate bedrooms. Ashleigh has become less destructive as she has gotten older. She just gives you the deer in the headlights look when you are trying to lecture or punish her.
Caitlynn is the baby and let me tell you the classic baby of the family. She thinks that she is exempt from EVERYTHING. She figures if she cries tears she can get away with it. It works on her daddy but I am harder on her. My grandma says she is just like I was as a child although I never argued like she does.....she'll tell you the sky is green and actually try to convince you of it. She bawls everytime I tell her to do something.
So I guess I am just looking for some good ways to deal with 2 very stubborn little girls. I have done the time out thing and it always ends up that I give up after a time because of the whining and the potty breaks every 2 minutes. I am not a pushover by anymeans, I don't want it to sound that way at all. I stick to my guns and I am just exhausted by it. So HELP!!!! Or at least let me know there are more of us moms out there that are dealing with this type of child!!!!
Thanks for listening!