Need a hug

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Registered: 01-04-2005
Need a hug
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Wed, 01-05-2005 - 2:45pm
Hi Im a stay at home mom with a son 14,&2 daughter 8& 6 . I feel like I need more than laundry , cooking & cleaning. I read, Knit,or scrapbook when i get a chance. I volunteer a lot of time at my childrens school,and I start back next week taking some courses to pursue my degree I never got. This is my second attememt ,last year i had to drop my classes because i behind from my children getting strep and not being able to go to school.My husband owns a company and has to put in a lot of time at work.
As Im posting this message I am over a week late ,I see adoctor next week. I am sure I am pregnant with number 4 . My husband would be happy with this because he wants a son (my son is from a previous marrige) I was ok with the idea as long as I got more help which he sa he realizes i need,I also asked for a housekeeper and possibly a Nanny. Now that the realazaton is setting in and a definate possibility Im pregnant Im feeling pretty stressed. Abortion is not an opption ,so does anyone have some encoraging words.
By the way I am 37, and my children for the most part are really good kids.
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Registered: 12-15-2003
In reply to: bluejeenz
Thu, 01-06-2005 - 11:08am
Hi bluejeenz, welcome to our board. :) It sounds like going back to school is something you really want to do, so if I were in your situation, I would find out for sure if you are pregnant just as you have said you are going to do, but whether or not you are pregnant, I think the best thing for you to do is sit down with your husband and try to come up with some solutions for making this all work. Try to come up with a plan on who will do what around the house and outside the house (errands, kids, etc...). If having a Nanny or Housekeeper is a possibility start looking for one soon. If that's not possible maybe family or friends could help out. While it is totally understandable that your husband puts in a lot of hours at work, you also have a full plate yourself. You stated that he would be happy with you being pregnant, and even though he puts in long hours, some of that responsibility will have to fall on him. I would definitely sit down and come up with a plan very soon. :)


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Snowman Siggy

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Registered: 04-03-2003
In reply to: bluejeenz
Thu, 01-06-2005 - 12:48pm

Welcome to the board! I think the first thing is to determine whether or not you are pregnant. Then you need to come up with a plan. If you are pregnant you will definitely need to sit down with DH and talk about where you really need the most help and how can you get it - whether its hiring someone, him taking more responsibility or getting help from family or friends.

Personally I'm 38 and am currently pregnant with #3. I have a DS who is 6 and another who is 18 months old. I work full-time outside of the house and DH is also self-employed (so I totally understand the amount of time they put into their businesses). I admit sometimes I feel stressed as to how this baby will fit into our lives and how I'll deal with everything.

This gives you a great chance to really evaluate your life and see where you need some help. I'm sure if you explain it to DH he'll do what he can to help. Also, can some chores be assigned to your older children - they might be more willing to help out than you think.

Keep us posted!

Amy

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Registered: 01-09-2005
In reply to: bluejeenz
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 5:31pm
hi - 1st like the others have already said - please see your doctor; 2nd sit down w/ur husband and discuss a plan - get the nanny and/or housekeeper which ever one will help you most start w/them if it is at all possible. And last, but certainly not least, take a few minutes for yourself. Relax and get a chance to smile. Time goes by too fast to worry about things. (have been there - at home mom of 2)
take care and keep us posted.
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Registered: 07-02-2004
In reply to: bluejeenz
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 11:46am
Dear bluejeenz,
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Registered: 01-04-2005
In reply to: bluejeenz
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 4:30pm
Thanks For the hugs,I took a homme prgnancy twice I am definatly pregnant.
I started school today ,so Im going to get through this semester and take it from there. I was actully fond of the idea of having anther child about 4 months ago so I guess its just the hormones doing a nummber on me. I see the doctor next week.
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Registered: 01-09-2005
In reply to: bluejeenz
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:58pm
Congratulations Bluejeenz -- don't worry -- take care of yourself and relax. Good luck in school too!