Do you compare yourself?
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|Thu, 04-26-2012 - 9:36pm|
I read an interesting tid bit today online that I thought would be fun to bounce off of you all. It was a post in another expecting club that I am not active in but can see through my phone app. A girl was talking about how hard it is to not compare yourself to other mommas out there. Be it the new momma who loses all the weight and looks spectacular post partum, or the momma who somehow manages to juggle one million arts and crafts activities with her little ones that you'd never even think of. I know we all do it. When I was pregnant with DS1 I had a friend at the time who was also pregnant with her first. She seemed to have no fears, no concerns, and no worries over having a baby. Her delivery was pain free with the epidural and she seemed 100% confident in herself as a parent. I always wondered how the heck she did it. Turns out, she is an awful parent and should never have been as confident as she was in her own abilities. A little doubt would do her a heck of a lot of good.
This brings me to my point I guess. In response to the original poster everyone offered up this advice first: Don't compare yourself to others! But you know, I think that might be something that has helped me to be a better parent. I think looking at others and comparing my approach or my kids' attitudes, etc has helped me to adjust or step forward on things I might have been slacking on. How do you guys feel about this?