To cut or not to cut...(circumcision)

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To cut or not to cut...(circumcision)
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Fri, 08-05-2011 - 8:07pm

This is always a big debate on EC's! If you have a boy will you circumcise him or not?

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Sat, 09-17-2011 - 9:46pm

I left this up to DH, too. He is circumcised and so is DS. I hate what DS had to go through, but I know he doesn't remember it, and he would wonder if something was "wrong" with him later in life if he were to see DH and see that he was different. I respect the decision of those that do not circumcise.

Jennifer

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Thank you Tan
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Sat, 10-01-2011 - 9:17am

DH is, DS1 is and DS2 is. If this one is another little boy it will be the same. It was never even really up for debate with us because DH found it personally odd not to be. I sort of agreed with him. I never had any experiences with men that weren't growing up (all my relationships were circumcised) and I have to admit that it would have struck me as strange if they hadn't been. It wouldn't have been the end all be all, but it would have been awkward. I personally don't expect it because i feel like it isn't very prevalent until recently in US society for men not to be circumcised. That was our reasoning. Neither of the boys seemed to have cared at all when having the procedure done. That was an added bonus, I guess. It would be nice if this was a little girl so I didn't have to think about it though :)

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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 12:25pm

I fought on this with my DH.

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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 12:38pm
Interesting, my insurance will pay for it and when I was on Medical when I had my son (low income insurance), they paid for it, too, with a co-pay at my doctor. You might check your insurance again. ;)
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 12:40pm
Our insurance covered it too, full cost. I'm not sure about other companies, but I understand it is a hot button issue so usually there will be lots of different takes on it--even from an insurance POV. I think there is nothing wrong with your approach to it, either. It is a personal choice. If I'd had an awful experience with the circumcision of either of my boys I might have thought differently about it, but it went so smoothly and they never complained. It didn't make me think twice about it, ya know?

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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 1:39pm

Is your DH a Christian? You can point out to him where Paul says It isnt the circumcision on the flesh that matters but the circumcision of the heart. Nothing in the New Testiment mandates or even encourages circumcision. I'm glad you won the battle anyways, though. Im thnakful that my DH is totally on board and it hasnt been a battle here at all for us because neither of us want to circ

-Bess--- mom to Eve and Ariel
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 1:40pm

Was this in recent yrs that the insurance payed? I know some companies still do but most have stopped in the last 3 yrs.

-Bess--- mom to Eve and Ariel
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 2:24pm
My son was born almost 9 years ago and it was 100% covered and I just checked my insurance a few weeks ago (different insurance) and it is covered 100% under well baby. It could depend on your state and insurance carrier, I'm not sure.
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Fri, 10-14-2011 - 11:48am

Do you think your son will think something is "wrong" with him when he first glimpses an intact penis in the locker room?

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Mon, 10-17-2011 - 1:16pm

I agree that the issues of locker rooms and explaining the differences in penis looks arent big things. the locker room wont even make a difference byt he time these babies are in High School since over 70% American boys were left intact last year and that number had been rising with each year for years now. The majority are going to be intact and the minority circ'd. And explaining that a son and father look different (or two brothers) is just a matter of explaining that boys used to be circumsiced because it was thought to be better but that is nolonger the belief and boys are left intact. I really dont think most bopys will question it or think much of it. I dont think boys are nearly as worried about having identical matching penis's with their dads as us parents are.

-Bess--- mom to Eve and Ariel
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