On tuesday, my husband and I
With my first pg, I went in for my 18-week appt and they couldn't find a hb. I hadn't had any previous ultrasounds, but we had heard the heartbeat at 10 and 14 weeks. When they did an ultrasound at 18 weeks to check on why there was no heartbeat, they said the baby wasn't developed much beyond a 14-week fetus, so it had likely died shortly after that appointment. I never had any cramping or bleeding and even felt morning sickness as severely as I had before. So, yeah, it was quite a surprise!
I'm one of those weird ladies who doesn't really freak out about these kinds of things, and, to me, the D&C was easy. No emotional issues, and very little discomfort. It was done at a very small hospital, so the nurse had no other patients but me. That drove me crazy because she sat at my bedside the ENTIRE time. And, at one point, when I said I was tired, she sent my DH away so I could get some rest. I was really frustrated with that recovery experience, simply because of the hospital and its staff. The D&C itself, though, was very smooth. I was anesthetized, so I never saw or felt anything, except the obvious issues of recovering from anesthesia and a small amount of cramping afterward. The bleeding lasted only a couple of days. I had lost a fair amount of blood during the procedure, though (they said they considered a transfusion), so I just had to take it easy for a few days when I got home.The dr said I could start trying for another immediately after my hgc levels returned to normal, but after being so sick, I decided to wait awhile. Once we started trying again, it took 4 months and I got pregnant with my DD - had a totally normal and uneventful pregnancy and delivery.
Good luck to you - I hope all goes well for you and that whatever you've decided about it (D&C or natural), it's worked out okay.