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I'm so sorry you have to go through this stressful event.
I'm just not clear on why your SO would allow this to happen. If she, and her son, are so dangerous and destructive then why allow her to come? Especially if you had restraining orders against her, and especially when you are pregnant and have small children. It doesnt seem safe.
Sending you LOTS of prayers and positive thoughts that she is not there long and does not cause too much trouble!
This sounds like a total disaster and I would be just as stressed/upset about it as you are. Is there anywhere else you can stay for the time being? not that you want to give your SO an ultimatum, but maybe if he realizes that it's his EX or YOU he'll come to his senses. Especially given her history of drugs and abuse this does not sound like someone you want around (especially with young children in the house).
I think I'd put my foot down from the get go....give her a set time limit on how long she has to find a job before you kick her out....and perhaps stay with someone else until that happens?
Just wanted to send prayers that you're able to come to a solution that keeps you and the kids safe. Hugs.
Why would she stay with you? That makes no sense. I'd pay the child support and lock my doors.
You should definitely take your two little ones and stay with your mum or family or somewhere else while she's there. No way you should stay in that house..
I had a suitcase of mine and the the children's stuff by the door and my dogs. She came into the house saw the room and looked around with her very obese and loud mother who called me a skinny b---- for being so little while pregnant. The kid didn't say hi to me, his father, or the other children. He is in fact very cold to us and always wants to kill my imperial toy sized dogs he tells me because they bark. He breaks everything we give him for gifts like the bike he got for Christmas last year $200 bike he just wrecked it by kicking it and stomping it until he bent the frame up totaling it because he didn't like the seat. He isn't a good kid at all he is very troubled and IMO needs psychological help. He said my dog makes his eyes itch and kicked at one of our 3lb Shih Tzu puppies who was by his foot. He stood there and looked the place over and then they walked outside. I walked outside and loaded the suitcase in the car and drove off with the children and my dogs/puppy. I came back by at 10pm when SO would get off of his shift since he went to work after that to see if they were all there having a happy dysfunctional family reunion. They weren't there (kid and druggie mom). She posted a bunch of junk on her Facebook about me and the situation, but in the end I think me leaving with the children and the suitcase was enough to stop the madness from commencing.
According to her Facebook, She then took the 12 year old to Resident Evil's latest showing and left her stuff in a storage unit nearby with the threat she will be back up when she has 5-6 grand for her own place but is leaving all her things in a storage to motivate her. She then went back down with her parents for the 12 hour ride. I seriously don't care if she ever comes back up or not. Her parents are trying to force the move on her but maybe they saw how badly it'd go so they didn't make her stay and I think he might have said something to them. There isn't even verification if this kid is his since she won't submit him to DNA tests he's been doing this nightmare since 2005. The kid was born in 2000... So he is going on 13 soon SO is 30. This is just dumb to have to deal with this it should have been solved years ago.
But alas, they are not here. And I couldn't be happier. Druggie mom, 0. My kids and me 1.
Glad to hear it all worked out. Does he pay child support? If there's a question about paternity, he could have a court ordered DNA test.