6 weeks looking like 6 months & overly sensitive about it :(

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Registered: 07-24-2006
6 weeks looking like 6 months & overly sensitive about it :(
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Fri, 01-06-2012 - 4:13pm

It all started when the cashier at the grocery store asked me how far along I was. I'll admit I lied and said "like 7ish weeks" because I realize I'm showing WAY TOO soon. I think I'm bloated more than anything, but it's also my 6th pregnancy (if this pregnancy is sucessful it will be my 4th child). Even so, her jaw dropped. She said, "You have got to be having TWINS!" I just laughed and said, "Don't say that, my husband may run away!" Then a friend asked me to post a baby bump picture on Facebook. My feelings were really hurt by the responses I got. The obvious twin comments, someone said I'm going to be on TLC's "I Didn't Know I was Pregnant..." until the 9th month, one of my BEST friends asked me why I even posted the picture, another friend asked me what I shoved up my shirt because there's no way that's the baby already, and told me it's abnormal! Now I'm bummed and feeling insecure. I want to delete the picture, but everyone will think I'm being a big baby. Is anyone else really showing already especially if this isn't your first pregnancy? I was also heavy before I got pregnant, I have a tilted uterus, and inward curved spine which I'm sure all play some part in this besides just bloating :(

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Registered: 04-23-2008
Aw I'm sorry. People can be so stupid and insensitive. Don't worry about the haters, just focus on growing a healthy baby. Especially if this is your 6th pregnancy of course you will show a bit early. I'm sure you look great btw.
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Registered: 01-05-2012

this is my fourth pregnancy w my last baby being born in may 2011....plus, ya know, im no skinny minny anymore.

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People are rude, and I never understand why they feel like they have the right to say stuff to pregnant women. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I am soooooo bloated right now, and I am surprised no one has asked if I'm pregnant yet!!!! I would take the picture down if you don't want to deal with the comments. If people think you are being a baby, maybe just tell them to stop being so mean spirited!!!!
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Registered: 07-19-2008

Some people just really do not get it at all. When I was pg with my Abby (granted I was 7 months along), but my father in law commented 'You're as big as a barn.' I about cried right then and there. And then, inevitably, people feel like they need to say things like.... really, you're only 6 months???I had a friend when I was pg with Penny and everyone told her she looked ready to pop any minute when she was only 7 months along. I knew her feelings were hurt.

I would not let other people discourage you. If the picture was bothering me on FB, I would delete and not care if people thought I was being a baby about the whole thing. You just do not deserve to have to tolerate people who are rude. I tend to be a little more assertive about things. When people would say things hurtful to me when I was preggo with Pen, I would say something like 'ouch' and once, at a small store, the cashier did the whole 'wow, only 16 weeks... wierd, that you are showing that much'... I promptly walked out and took my business somewhere else.

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Registered: 07-24-2006
Thanks ladies, every one of you made me feel better :) Plus a good friend of mine took me out for Red Lobster & cheered me up too!
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Registered: 06-23-2007

This is my 7th pregnancy and I look like I am at least 6 months prego also. I was not like this with any of my other pregnancies, so I am a little concerned about twins. I am lucky and live thousands of miles from anyone I know... actually you girls on this board are the only ones who know that I am expecting again besides my husband. I am worried about going to my 1st Dr appointment on the 18th because of the sudden weight gain... Don't let other people bother you, us BTDT moms have earned the right to start showing early :)

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Registered: 12-31-2011

Im sorry that people are so inconsiderate.


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Registered: 01-05-2012

wow laura, youre post made me feel better!

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It is hard to let what people say not get to you, especially while pregnant and hormonal. I will never forget with my first 2 pregnancys I always got asked how far along I was, and people would gasp and tell me I looked a lot further, or that I looked like I was ready to pop! I would cry all the time over peoples rude comments! Try not to let their negative comments get to you. Especially if all these people are your friends, they should know better than to make such hurtful comments to you!

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Registered: 03-30-2009
Hi there. I am lurking... due the end of July so I like to take a peek at the Aug Club sometimes. I know exactly what you are talking about! I started out heavy, this is my 6th pregnancy (also will be 4th child) and I already look like I am in the end of my 2nd trimester. I also have a tilted uterus and have showed so quick since my 2nd pregnancy. Really, you are not alone in this. I posted a baby bump photo in our club and at first I felt so out of place because everyone one had such cute little tummies and flat bellies before they got pregnant. But now I feel good about it because I know my body is doing what it is supposed to do! I have gotten negative comments from my 2nd pregnancy on... and I just don't let it bother me anymore. I hope you can do the same because pregnancy is a beautiful thing! And you deserve to feel beautiful during this time. (((Hugs))) - Mandie

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