Feeling like a failure......

Oh, were it not for the children (19/15/11), our house would have gone to pot by now for sure. I've been exhausted since before I knew I was pregnant and it's hard for me to get motivated to do much of anything. The kids take care of the garbage, the kitchen cleanup, and the dishes, but I still am left with overall cleaning and a good part of laundry, and I do get backed up... but I think the older two are going to start chipping in a bit more, at least for a bit.

But, I don't feel like a failure. This lack of energy is because I've got another life growing inside of me, and there's nothing I can do about feeling wiped out. And, the first trimester is always challenging. In another month, you'll probably feel a bit more like yourself, and maybe you'll get around to the dishes and laundry. ;) But, as long as you're not living in absolute filth and are taking care of Claire, I don't think you should beat yourself up over it. Your body is doing big things right now, so you're going to be zapped. Just do what you absolutely have to do, and let everything else slide for a bit.

Also, IMO, your daughter isn't going to remember that mommy didn't do dishes/laundry/make the beds when she was little. She WILL remember play-time. Enjoy the precious few months you have left with her being the Only. Things get crazy real once you add a second child to the mix (in a good way, but I found the jump from 1-2 a lot more challenging than from 2-3).

Hang in there, and cut yourself some slack... I'm sure you're doing better than you think.

Brie
#4 EDD 8/5/12