Neg. Reactions to Pregnancy?

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Neg. Reactions to Pregnancy?
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Mon, 01-09-2012 - 11:02pm

Anyone else having negative reactions to the pregnancy news?

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Registered: 08-16-2007
Mon, 01-09-2012 - 11:11pm

Yes, my MIL, when we told her, her face looked like she just tasted something horrible.

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Registered: 09-08-2007
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 11:02am
Yep, we had some as well. My FIL gave my DH a big thumbs down when he read our 2yr old DS's shirt (It said "Big Brother in Aug '12") and the same with MIL, she expressed concern about me being pregnant now since I had just recently quit working voluntarily. Ironically the other side of DH's family (his parents divorced and remarried when he was young) was the side we expected some big issues from and they were more supportive and happy about it.
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 11:32am
My SIL just jokingly said "bitch" but I know it's because they have been ttc with no luck yet, so I really didn't take it personally. I was worried about telling the in-laws though, but they were happy.
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 2:32pm

We're planning to tell family this weekend.

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Registered: 04-28-2008
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 4:55pm
None with this pregnancy, though my mom was hardly excited, but with my first pregnancy my mom was in disbelief (not the good kind) and then told me I better plan on moving out soon! Actually now that I think about it, her reaction was less than enthusiastic with each pregnancy, but then she spoils the crap out of them the second they pop out, heh. It's annoying though - I don't understand how a grandparent couldn't be completely delighted by a grandbaby!
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Registered: 12-31-2011
Tue, 01-10-2012 - 7:40pm
Well considering this is our 4th and our youngest is 8 and our oldest will be 18 in a month...yeah we got some major odd looks like what in the world are you guys doing, LOL!

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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 8:57pm
I have a very strange extended family. Dh's step mom hasn't even talked to me since I told her we were pregnant on Christmas, DH's mom just went on and on about how we couldn't afford another baby (pretty sure we've never asked her for money so it's none of her darn business) and how stressed we're going to be and bla bla bla. DH's dad said congratulations and that was all and I haven't talked to him since I told him. I honestly don't care. We're thrilled about this baby and are thanking God for him or her. It's their loss IMO.
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Tue, 01-10-2012 - 10:25pm

I don't know why families have such a hard time with other people's decision to have more children. My MIL is going to be super rude so we have put off telling her up to this point. I don't really know when we'll tell her, but certainly not looking forward to it. I can completely relate the pp who has an adult daughter because I am in the same boat. People just look at us and think... what could you possibly be thinking?!?! I don't really care though. We do not ask anybody for help and we take good care of all of our children.

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Registered: 10-12-2010
Wed, 01-11-2012 - 6:02am

That's too bad. :(

I don't think we've had necessarily negative reactions too much. With the kids it was touch-and-go for a minute. Libby (19) had a brain fart for about a minute, and then I basically told her to get over it and it wasn't about her, and now she's a huge supporter. Jake (11) didn't believe us, and Will (15) only cared about not giving up his room. All 3 are 100% on board now and are excited.

Told FIL via email and he's happy for us. Haven't talked Dad yet, but told his wife and she was shocked, and almost sounded like she wasn't going to be happy for us at first, and I just told her that this is how it is and babies rock and then she seemed to be ok. Funny thing is, she and Dad are very religious, and not a month before we found out I was pregnant, Dad and I had a big discussion on birth control and babies and God's plan and all that... and he doesn't think we should be preventing pregnancy. Society as a whole, I mean. So, when we finally do talk, I'll be sure to bring that up. :)

But, with Dad it wouldn't be about babies -- he loves my three and my step-sister's two kids very much. He's a great father and grandfather. He just worries, as parents do.

And, hubby and I have a different kind of relationship, really hectic and crazy I guess. For one, we're not married anymore (it's just easier to call him my husband rather than explain it to everyone we meet). He's the father of my 3 kids and this baby... We got pregnant with Libby in '91 I swear in the first few weeks of knowing each other, and I couldn't marry him just because of a baby. Seemed silly. We didn't even get married until after Will was born in '96. Then, in 2004 our marriage went to hell when we moved to NC, he had an affair, so I left him and took the kids back to Indiana, got a divorce (just before he had a child with the "other woman"), finished my undergrad degree, got married a second time, went to grad school, got divorced within a year, and then in 2008 Big K and I found our way back to one another. We moved back in with him in 2009 after I wrapped up grad school, and here we are. Moved to TX in June for his work, and just now really getting back on track financially (we had a house in NC, where we moved from, and it took several months to sell, so paying the equivalent of 2 mortgages/utilities for several months). We've no intention of getting remarried, either, at least not for a while.

Anyhoo. So, if the family isn't 100% on board, I can kind of understand a bit, but we really don't care. We're both in our 40s, our sh*t is as together as anyone's, and as nervous as I am about practically starting over, the 5 of us are excited and happy about the new baby. We were in far direr straights when we got pregnant with Libby. We can certainly do this. :)

Brie

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Brie
Mom to Libby/17, William/12, and Jacob/8
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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 1:39pm

so far we have only told a few people.

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