Finally told family

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Finally told family
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 3:40pm

  So we finally told our family(at least the important ones)  and it went just as I thought it would, Terrible!  My mom was shocked and then told us we were stupid, and what business did we have to chance bringing another child into this world with the same problems as our daughter?  Just what we need another kid! And so on...  As for my mother-in-law it was pretty much the same thing.  let me just say I am a stay at home mom and my husband is a chemist we own our home.  We are stable adults.  I am have trouble getting excited about this pregnancy because of the genetic testing, but my family is making even harder. :smileysad:

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Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:04pm
So sorry that your family isn't being supportive. You always have our support here. I hope that they realize that it's not helping you at this point to not be supportive and get their act together. Whether they like it or not, you're pg and hopefully they'll be more supportive in the future.

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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 5:22pm
you guys are great! thank you so much! I will def be using your p&pts :smileyhappy:
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 4:37pm

(((HUGS))) I'm so sorry for their response. Children are blessings from God. Try and keep your head up!

Alicia Mom to Logan - Jan 9, 2005 and Colby - Oct 15, 2008
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 2:38pm
Ugh, I can't believe they'd act like that! I'm so sorry and I'm glad you at least have the support of your husband! I hope they'll come around eventually! Sending hugs your way!
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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 11:39am

Wow.  Sending hugs your way, Lisa.  It's hard enough dealing with your own fears let alone hearing such negativity from the people who should be supporting you.  Whenever my family gets opinionated about my life decisions, I always say "well, that's the great thing about being an adult.. I don't have to ask anyone's permission".. Then smile sweetly. Hehe. 

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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 10:35am

Wow, I am really sorry Lisa.  That is so terrible.  I hope they think about what they said and how mean it was and call you up to apologize.  I mean what is the point of saying those things???  You are already pregnant, so either jump on board or get out of the way, you know?  I'd avoid them as much as possible until they can get their heads and butts wired together and be positive influences instead of dragging you down.  Good luck and feel free to vent when you need to!

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Thu, 08-16-2012 - 9:11am

I'm so sorry your families were unsupportive and, to be blunt, downright cruel. It amazes me how many people seem to think the old rule of not saying anything at all if they have nothing nice to say doesn't apply to them. 




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Registered: 05-22-2007
Wed, 08-15-2012 - 7:17pm
Thank you ladies! We planned this baby but every now and then I think what have I done? My only support is my husband, I have no family or friends here. This is tuff
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 6:31pm
I am so sorry they were unsupportive. That just really stinks!
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Wed, 08-15-2012 - 5:18pm
Sorry you had such a negative response Lisa. I hope they have a change of heart and become a support system for you!! Sending lots of P&PTs to you.
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