Best Friend pregnant...how can I help!?

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Best Friend pregnant...how can I help!?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 9:51am
Hi all. I'm new to this board. I just got wonderful news from my best friend. She lives 3 hours away from me and just found out she's pregnant. How can I help her? She lives with her husband who is in the military and sometimes away 3 days at a time because of his shift. I want to send a gift but I know it's still early and I want to be careful. I was thinking about sending her the book "What to expect when you're expecting"...any other suggestions on what your girlfriends did for you when you first found out? I don't want to be pushy, but I want her to know that I'm here for her even though I'm 3 hours away. I hope to be there for her throughout the pregnancy...any advice?

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 11:32am
The book sounds like a very nice gift - I know that I enjoyed reading it. If you are able, how about volunteering to stay with her for a few days when her DH is out of town? You could pamper her for a few days with some nice meals and girl stuff (pedicures, foot massage, etc...). I know that sometimes pregnant woman don't always feel very attractive so it may be nice to do "girl things" to perk her spirits.

She is lucky to have a friend who is concerned about her.

Carol w/ Meghan and Carrie

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 1:19pm
Maybe you could buy her a phone card, or plan to meet up the first Saturday of the month for lunch or to see a movie.



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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 2:06pm
What to expect when your expecting is a great book to send! It was like my bible when I was pregnant. :) Also, maybe a pregnancy journal or calender that tells her whats going on each week. I don't think a book would be pushy, just a nice gift to get. Let her know what your there for her if she ever needs you. You sound like a great friend, your idea is wonderful!

~Kristina

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 2:15pm
My sister is pregnant and I have been giving her little care packages every once in awhile. Like during the first trimester I bought her a journal to record what was going on during the pregnancy and some sweets (what she was craving). I plan on loaning her my broken pair of head phones and the tape I played for my son while in utero. I have also been picking up items to give to her in the 3rd trimester, such as Tums, Lanisoh Nipple Cream, some Cocoa Butter, etc. Thought this might help you out some. You could do a little care package every couple of months or so with a card just to let her know you are there for her.

Andrea w/Brandon (5/15/03)

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 8:16pm
I was lurking here from the April Expecting club and saw your posting. That is so sweet of you to post on this board for suggestions of a gift for your best friend!

I actually posted a story on the other board of what my best friend got for me. It's a statue made by Willow Tree - this one is called "Cherish Awaiting a Miracle" the statue is a pregnant woman holding her tummy with angel wings. It's absolutely beautiful, it made me cry! I will cherish it forever. They are 29.99 CDN, I know because they have many different kinds and I'm getting the Grandmother one for my Mom when we give her the good news.

She's lucky to have such a thoughtful friend!

Robyn

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 8:26pm
I have that book as well as many others and it was good to refernce things in but not to live by (IMO) - I really enjoyed The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy and The Girfriends Guide to the First Year. They are informative as well as humorous and the author really tells it like it is instead of sugar coating things. Also - if you want to but her things, personal pampering items are GREAT! Bath and Body works has some great items that she can use in or after the bath to help her relax.

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 10:36pm
I was really sick the first trimester and when I don't feel good I get really weepy. I was so sick of hearing about the baby, I just wanted to yell "but I'm the one that feels like crap!" My friend bought me a box of saltines and a congratulations card. It was one of the most thoughtful things I think anyone has EVER done.

To pass along the thought, I sent a gift basket to another friend when I found out she was expecting. It included:

* Mint Tea - Celestial Seasonings makes a Tummy Time tea and a Tension Tamer tea. Both are decaf.

* Ginger Lemon Tea -decaf! (people tend to really like either mint or ginger for upset tummies)

* Suckers - Hard candy apparently helps get your stomach juices moving again and helps nausea.

* 3 Travel Packs of Tums - different flavors

* Tylenol (I used to be an Advil fan, which I found out is a HUGE no-no)

* Spiral note pad for purse (This has been great for To-Do's: from "What to Buy for Dinner" to "What to Take to the Hospital")

* Cute Sticky note pad for everywhere else! (I found my memory went from a steal trap to swiss cheese!)

* 50 Ways to Pamper Yourself at Home

* Journal - Even if she's not big into journaling, I found writing in it once a month has been really great to look back at. She can write to her baby or one lady wrote in it how her DH had been helpful during the pg and gave it to him at the birth.

After all was said and done, I spent $50. I put it all in a basket that I thought she might be able to use in the baby's room. I put little notes on everything so that she would know what the reason behind each item was. (I didn't find out about ginger tea until the "morning" sickness was over and I didn't own Tylenol until I had to go to the store in pain.)

Congratulations to your friend and big hugs to you for being so thoughtful!!!

EDD 9/27 with #1

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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 10:42pm
I was thinking that if her DH was out of time during childbirth classes, breastfeeding classes etc. You could volunteer to be her coach or partner. I'm sure she would love that.

Everyone has had a lot of great ideas as well, great input gals!

~Kristina & Ani Rose 3/21/03

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Thu, 08-21-2003 - 12:59pm
WOW---what an awesome post!!! I just sent off the book today, What to expect...and I plan on working on a basket in the coming weeks! That would be awesome! Thanks again and best of luck to you!

Kim
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Thu, 08-21-2003 - 1:03pm
Thanks ladies for all the great ideas!! I'm just so excited for her and her husband and I can't wait to help out and pamper her! She deserves it!! Thanks again!!!

Kim

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