Birth Story

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Birth Story
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Wed, 03-06-2013 - 2:47pm

Sorry I haven't been online lately.  I'm finally having a free moment to come on here and post the birth story.  We ended up naming the baby Madelyn Anne and she is just beautiful!  I had my water break at 11PM when I was sitting up watching TV.  It wasn't the gush of fluid, but more just leaking out.  I was worried I wouldn't know it it had really broke, but when it happened the fluid is thicker and it was way obvious what had happened.  I had some contractions on the way to the hospital and when I got there they said they were already 2-3 minutes apart.  The nurses had me doing a lot of walking to try to get more dilated, I was only 2cm when I arrived at the hospital.  I progressed pretty slowly at first and finally progressed to around 5cm when they checked me Saturday morning.  After that, I kept trying to walk, but started having lots of back labor that went from my low back to my upper butt on the right side.  I could handle the contractions perfectly fine, but the back labor was making it way too uncomfortable to walk.  I sat in the whirlpool for a while and that helped and I kept trying to walk and then go back to use the whirlpool.  Finally they gave me some fentanyl to help me sleep, but unfortunately the only one who slept was DH.  I got maybe 15 minutes of sleep at best, but I at least got some relief.  Finally I requested an epidural after trying to walk again and failing because it was too much because of the pain.  I was 7cm before the epidural and after they started the medicine I was quickly to 10 cm.  I ended up pushing for 3 hours and 15 minutes.  I'm not sure if it was because the epidural made the pushing less effective or if I would have pushed that long regardless.  Fortunately I didn't have the pain at that point, so I didn't really care.  I had Madelyn at 9:45 PM on the 23rd. She was 7lb 7.8 oz and 20 3/4 inches long.  I can hardly believe that she's already a week and a half old!  I was exhausted after being up for 36 hours straight, and I highly recommend not feeling back about letting the baby sleep in the nursery so you can catch up on some sleep.  Our first night home we were very thankful that we had gotten some rest in the hospital.  The first night was very rough and she was up most of the night!  We're trying to settle into a routine at this point, but I know it's going to be a while before that happens. 

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Sun, 03-10-2013 - 2:32pm

You're one of the lucky few women whose water breaks before labor. I'm happy for you that you had an open mind about the epidural. Was your labor 22 hours, then? I can't believe you pushed for over three-hours, but like you said, since you had the epi it made it tolerable. If you don't mind my asking (if it's not too personal and you don't have to answer), did you end up getting a hemmorhoid from pushing too long? I only pushed for 35 minutes and I did. Did you end up tearing or having an episotomy? I tore both sides of my labia and the stitches took five weeks to heal. How long did DH take off for paternity leave? I'm glad you were able to get some sleep in the hospital by having her in the nursery. That first week home is exhausting and an adjustment to say the least. You get used to lack of sleep (unfortunately). We kept Ricky in the room with us in the hosptial, and like you said, after being up for over a day, it was a difficult two days. How is your daughter eating/sleeping? How long is your maternity leave and who's going to watch her when you go back to work?

DH works from home, but is going to get a PT job outside of the home to help make up some of my income since I decided to be a SAHM. We're still receiving STD right now, so that's helped! I'm a little spoiled with him being home and I'll really miss him when he goes to work. I'm hoping we'll get lucky and he can just get more work at home... Ricky is 10 weeks old already. He sleeps one long block of 5-6 hours and then sleeps in 3-hour incraments the rest of the day. He's up more now during the day, too. He loves his bouncy seat, swing, and baths. He takes naps now in his pack and play and crib, but only for 2-3 hours at a time. He eats 4-6oz/feeding. He holds his head up (and has been able to since 2-weeks), smiles, and laughs all the time- best sound ever! I always wanted three kids, but after going through labor/delivery/recovery, I think I can only do it one more time and that's not for another three years. Didn't mean to steal your post, just wanted to update you on how things are going... crazy to think E is going to be having her baby soon, too. You had your baby about 1 1/2 month after me and E will have hers about 1 1/2 months after you.

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Wed, 03-13-2013 - 3:46pm

Amanda- No I didn't have any problems after pushing so long. I did have a labial tear on one side, but it wasn't too bad.  It's still healing though. I wasn't sure how long it would take to heal and it's only been 2 1/2 weeks so far.  Dh was actually laid off when we had the baby.  They actually had work for him though starting today. He left on Sunday for Illinois to do a job and he is staying in a hotel since it's a few hours away.  It's a little stressful being alone with a newborn, but we're doing fine.  I'm just trying to take lots of naps and I have a lot of help from family. So far she's eating fine. I'm breastfeeding which is challenging.  She doesn't always have a good latch and sometimes I get pretty sore, but I think it's getting better.  She's sleeping in chunks of time at night. I was told to wake her at least every 4 hours to eat.  So far, she's usually still sleeping when I go in to wake her up.  She had been falling right back asleep, but the last few nights she's been more cranky and just didn't want to go back to the crib right away.  I'm going to try to keep resting during the day just in case it keeps happening. She's still not really staying awake much yet.  I am looking forward to when she'll want to sit in the bouncy seat and play more.  She's starting to smile, or maybe I'm just imagining it and she's a little more awake then the first 2 weeks. So far so good. I'm just hoping to make it through the next 2 weeks and then DH hopefully will be back. I think it broke his heart to leave as much as it broke mine to see him go.  It's hard to miss that time when your getting to know your newborn daughter. The timing was crappy, but he needs to work while he can. He had been laid off since early November, so he couldn't really turn the work down. Hopefully they'll have a job closer when he's done with this one. Usually he's only traveling a few miles and can just commute.

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Thu, 03-14-2013 - 9:18am

That's good that you didn't end of having issues from pushing too long. The tear will probably take a good month to heal. With you being a nurse, I'm sure you already know about all of that... taking care of it with everything they gave you helps tremendiously. That's nice that DH got to be home with you your last trimester though. Sorry he had to go back to work so soon after your baby was born, but I'm glad you have family close by to help while he's gone. At least he got to be home for a couple of weeks to bond with her. It takes guys a little longer. I'm glad, too, that you're able to get short spurts of rest throughout the day- every little bit helps. It's nice that breastfeeding is going well for you aside from the soreness. Are you using the linolum cream they gave you? At the hospital they told us to wake the baby every 2-hours if he wasn't waking up to eat, but our pedatrician said NEVER wake a sleeping baby because they will cry to let you know they are hungry and you're daughter is sleeping really well for her age. If you're worried about your milk supply you could always pump b/w feedings to keep it up. She is an absolute doll and so perfect! I think she favors you a lot! Your daughter sleeps in her crib? That's awesome! Ricky is stil in his bouncy seat, but he's getting too long for it. He'll nap in his crib, but only short spurts. I may just have to let him cry it out to get used to it more- that's what we had to do with some of the things he used to cry at- swing for instance, he also used to cry at diaper changes and baths, but he got used to those after two weeks. Is ther anything your daughter is uncomfortable with? Ricky still hates his carseat, but I think he's got better in it.

My son only sleeps two four hour blocks at night (and that's recent at 10 1/2 weeks) and then two- three hour naps during the day. I was going to introduce rice cereal to help him stay fuller longer, so therefore sleep longer, but after reading up on it... four months is the earliest you should give it because their digestive system is too immature to handle it since they don't have the enzyme to break it down, which causes constipation (he only poos once a day anyway since switching to formula), it could cause food allergies if introducing too soon, and it's not proven to help them sleep longer... DH decided to take the 3am feeding (as of last night) for the next month or so (until he goes to work PT outside of the house) since he's still up at that time anyway, so I sleep from 10pm until 6am, which was really nice! So then he sleeps at 4am-12pm and will work until 6pm. Hopefully Ricky will sleep longer within the next month, so then it won't be an issue...

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Mon, 03-18-2013 - 1:55pm
She's been a really good baby so far. She cries at diaper changes and getting dressed and bathing of course. I pretty much tried to get her into the crib as soon after she was born. I figured it would be best to get her used to it straight off the bat and I don't know if that's what helped or not. We were told to wake her up at least every 4 hours at night by the lactation consultant. My pediatrician said I could start to space out the feedings some, but the lactation consultant said if we tried to space them too early then she would probably end up eating more frequently at night and she still recommended waking her during the daytime. I've let her go a little longer at night a few times, but pretty much after it's been 5 hours since when she started her last feeding I wake her up and feed her. When she gets a little older, I guess I'll start spacing it out more and more to see if she can sleep better at night. She's only 3 weeks old and it's hard to know what to do. Everyone says you'll just know, but it's hard to know when it's ok to let the baby sleep and you can get too many different opinions on what to do. It sounds like DH will be back hopefully by next Sunday, but we'll see. He needs to work while he can, so hopefully he can get plenty of hours in before he comes home.

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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 7:41pm

Wow what a birth story! Congratulations on your little baby girl! They grow up so fast, I still can't believe mine is almost 5 months old, starting to sit up and crawl! How are you adjusting to motherhood? I know the first month is the hardest, but it does get easier!