FRUSTRATED!! Am I over reacting?

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Registered: 03-25-2011
FRUSTRATED!! Am I over reacting?
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 6:24am

I'm 13 weeks gone, and recently iv been getting really emotional, my partner doesn't really know how to deal with me, I feel so frustrated and emotional mainly because I can't do all the normal things I used to, smoke, drink, bla bla

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Mon, 04-25-2011 - 9:52am
Hello and welcome to the board!

I can certainly understand why you are feeling that way. It can be difficult to stop doing some of the things you used to do once you become pregnant. It can be equally as hard to see your partner still doing those things and I think I would be frustrated as well.

I'm sure that part of your feelings are hormonal but very normal during this part of your pregnancy but I'm guessing that part of it is that you feel like your partner isn't listening to how you are feeling. If your partner seems to be drinking/going out/smoking more than you think is fair, have a discussion with him about it and share with him how it is making you feel. Perhaps the two of you can find a compromise that will help you feel less frustrated.

Hang in there! Keep us posted on how things are going and feel free to vent here at any time. ((((HUGS))))

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Tue, 04-26-2011 - 12:50pm

Although hormones play a part with our emotions during pg; I'd say you're frustration is legitimate. Going from partying to 0 in a short amount of time is hard, and it's harder when you're the only one not partying! I understand that he wants to "get it out of his system", but it really sounds like that's an excuse.

Tracie, proud 1st time Mommy to Jake! "Every saint has a past and every sinner has a future" - Oscar Wilde
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Tue, 04-26-2011 - 2:58pm

I can understand how you are feeling.

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Thu, 04-28-2011 - 5:59pm
Just a word of warning from personal experience, if your SO is not willing to go cold turkey and support you through your frustration, especially if they are using the line "I just need to get it out of my system," when the baby comes... he'll still be partying without you.