Hurtful mother - what should I do?
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|Fri, 04-01-2011 - 4:20am|
Hi everyone! I'm 15 weeks pregnant and very happy for it!
Since I'm pregnant I decided to not be involved with some people (specially family) because of their opinions and comments that were driving me crazy! But the worst is my own mother! She has been telling me things about when she was pregnant with me that I didn't know before and also have been making some hurtful comments to me. I notice she wasn't very careful when she was pregnant. For instance, she told me that when she was 7/8 months pregnant it was very hot and she was eating an entire box of icecream every 2 days! OMG! She didn't stop and think for a moment that doing that could be hurtful to me???
Then, she's now always making comments about my weight! I only gained 8.8 pounds (4kg) so far, but it seems she has some kind of pleasure in mentioning that to me! Like for example the other day we were on a clothes shop, I was trying some dresses and she was shouting to me in front of everyone: "does it fit?" "maybe you need the extra large!!!".
But for me the worse was a comment she made to the mother of my husband, and he heard it too. At the beginning of my pregnancy I had to go to her town for work and then I stayed a few days at her house. I was being VERY careful with everything I was eating, specially when going out to eat, and I was also very nauseous so I couldn't eat a lot of foods. Then 2 weeks ago her comment was: "oh thank goodness she's not like that anymore having to watch everything she eats, I couldn't stand her anymore!"
I feel so hurt by her saying this! As my mother, she should be happy I'm being careful with what I eat and if I was nauseous it's me who cannot stand it anymore, not her! It's very sad this coming from my own mother. I'm on my first pregnancy, feeling a bit vulnerable and scared and I don't need these comments or people telling me about my weight when I didn't even gained a lot of weight!
I don't know if I should have a conversation with her or just keep the distance. What do you think of all this?