I've decided to use a doula

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Registered: 03-20-2011
I've decided to use a doula
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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:30pm

Anyone have experience with a doula or midwife?

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Registered: 03-20-2011
Wed, 05-25-2011 - 5:20pm

So, I've decided to stick with my OB and use a doula. I was considering using a midwife, but they never answer their phone, and just after I tried calling twice, my OB's nurse called to see how I was doing. I'm taking it as a sign (sigh). I talked to her about my concerns and that I want to try to do this naturally and with a doula. She said that would be just fine and that they have worked with doulas before. I'm going to write up a specific birth plan, use a doula, and hope for the best.

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 9:30pm
My OB was like your OB in the "lets talk at 36 weeks" thing. What happens if you go into labor prior to 36 weeks? I think that OB's can sometimes become jaded and lack bedside manor. Good luck in your decision...I can' wait to hear
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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 1:17pm

I had my first son with a Midwife (certified nurse midwife) and a hospital birth- I am doing the same with this pregnancy. I loved the personal attention, and sometimes doctors seem condescneding to me and midwives make decisions with you instead of for you.

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Mon, 05-23-2011 - 5:28am

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Sun, 05-22-2011 - 10:51pm

I may be switching from an ob/gyn to a midwife. If so, MAYBE I won't need a doula. A doula is not covered by my insurance either, but costs around $300 for meetings, labor, and post-delivery visits. I know I'm not using the correct language, so sorry about that. I was put off by my ob/gyn. I am 27 weeks and asked her about labor/delivery. She said we could talk about that at week 36. I was confused and thought that was strange. Isn't labor/delivery something you need to be prepared for? That scares me. The way the office talks about being induced and c-sections, like it's no big deal. Well, it is a big deal to me.

So I'm looking into my options. It's kind of stressful, but I know that within a week or two it will all be settled and I will feel more comfortable when the big day arrives.

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Registered: 03-27-2008
Thu, 05-19-2011 - 10:26pm
I have not used one, but would have loved to. Unfortunately there are none covered under my insurance. I have heard wonderful experiences with midwives and doulas however. Go for it!
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Thu, 05-19-2011 - 9:10am
Hi there,

I have never personally used a doula or midwife but I've heard nothing but good things. Have you already selected one already or are you still in the process?

Here's a great article on iVIllage all about what you need to know about doulas that I wanted to share with you too. It may give a few ideas on things to keep in mind during the process- http://www.ivillage.com/considering-labor-doula-what-you-need-know/6-a-144648

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