Need advice on a few things...
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|Mon, 11-24-2008 - 10:59pm|
OK I have a few things I need advice on.
1. My boyfriend is a smoker. Ever since I found out I was pregnant, he's been saying he's going to quit. Problem is, I'm 5 1/2mo along and I don't even see a small difference. He says he's trying, but I don't believe him. I don't even have faith that he will quit by the time the baby is born. He smokes outside and when he's done he changes his shirt, sprays Febreze, washes his hands, and brushes his teeth. I don't understand why he would go through such a hassle every time he smokes when he can just quit! Our apartment doesn't smell like smoke at all and he showers every night before bed, so our bed doesn't smell either but it BUGS THE HELL out of me that he doesn't have the willpower to quit. What should I do??
2. People keep telling me how big I am for only being 5.5mo pregnant. People say, "boy are you sure you're not expecting twins" or "you couldn't even tell I was pregnant when I was 5mo along" and so on. I just want to punch everyone in the face! I've only gained about 13lbs and you cannot tell I'm pregnant from the back. I haven't filled out anywhere EXCEPT my stomach. Part of why this bothers me SO much (aside from people being downright rude) is that I got pregnant within the first few times of having sex with my boyfriend and I was dating someone before my boyfriend and we had only broken up about a week before I started seeing my current man. He and I didn't have sex for the first time until about 2 weeks into our relationship and I had had a completely normal period before we slept together for the first time. AND I hadn't had sex with my previous boyfriend for about a month prior to sleeping with my current boyfriend. The doctor has said that the chances of the baby being the OTHER guy's are VERY SLIM. He's checked her "age" every single time we've done an ultra sound and he hasn't upped her due date. I explained the situation to him and my concerns and he's pretty certain there's next to no chance it could be the last boyfriend's baby. All the things I should experience fall right in line of WHEN I'm supposed to experience them; I felt her move for the first time at about 19 weeks, Justin felt her move at about 21 weeks, I stopped getting sick at about 3 1/2 months, etc. But with all these people telling me how big I am already, it just makes me THAT much more nervous!! Can anyone understand?
3. I'm not feeling her move quite as much as I did last week. I will be 24 weeks tomorrow and last week she was moving and hiccuping like a crazy person. The past few days; not so much. Now that I am typing this, she's moving. HA!
I'm attaching a photo of myself at 22 weeks. I'm wearing a dress so it doesnt lay quite the same as if I were showing bare skin, but you'll get the idea of my size.