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Pregnant Step-mom
| Sun, 03-20-2011 - 4:24pm |
I'm a stepmom and pregnant for the first time. I'm struggling with resentment towards my step-daughter and that my child will not be my husband's first child. Also, my step-daughter has been supportive, but the last couple of days, I think she is starting to get jealous about this new baby. She also questions my decisions, like breast-feeding. She thinks it is nasty and unnatural.
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Hello I was lurking from another board and I just wanted to say congrats on having a baby.
I saw your post and wanted to reply.
Ugh......being a step mom is the toughest job in the world. It is so confusing, frustrating, heart-breaking, and yet wonderful rolled into one.
I am the step mom to 2 kids. SD is
Thanks for the support, and yes I agree. You can't let your SD control your life. This is your life too and I think it is too much of a sacrifice to not have your own children, because she is not comfortable with it.
I'm lurking from the Oct 2011 EC...
Your post caught my eye and I had to reply. I have a 14 year old SD as well. My SO and I have been together for
Lori,
(I had to change my username, but it's still me from the original post). Some days are better than others, but I do feel resentment from her.
She and I definitely bump heads--she's the complete opposite of me--so I'm hoping I bond with MY baby better. I'm just not getting the whole stepmom thing. I guess it woulda been better had I been in her life more when she was younger (she was 3 when we met and I wasn't in her life a whole lot 'til she turned 5). She calls me "Mom" and everything. It's just weird for me. :-/ When she was here last summer (her FIRST summer here) it was seriously so hard .. Almost made me not want to have my own child! Thankfully, things have changed. I just hope I can show her love like I will with our new LO. I think she'll be a good big sister when she is around though. *crosses fingers* I wish just as much luck with all of you having struggles! It really is hard to be a stepmom!
Just remember this is your baby and you know what is best for them. Don't let her discourage you from what you know is the right thing.