Your personal parenting goals?

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Registered: 08-27-2003
Your personal parenting goals?
Tue, 09-30-2003 - 11:13pm

When I first found out that I was going to be a mother. One of the first few (hundred) things that crossed my mind was, my ultimate goal as a parent. What was I going to give to this child to make her life and our relationship special? I first looked at the parents around me...And I would love for Ani to have a relationship like I do with my mother. Here's a list of some of my goals as a parent :)

Firstly, I would like for Ani to resent me the least amount possible. Lol We all look back and maybe think I wish my mom or dad would of done this...or maybe they should of disciplined me more...maybe they should of been more active in my life. I'll be the first to admit that I'm not going to be the perfect parent. I'm new to this and will learn as I go. I just hope I mess up the least amount possible, or at least learn from my mistakes.

Secondly, I would like to teach Ani to love herself. Self respect is something I had to pick up the hard way. Though I finally do respect myself, self love isn't something I'm use to. I don't regret my past by any means. It's what made me the person that I am today. I just hope that Ani realizes her self worth, and doesn't settle for any less than she deserves and doesn't let anyone else put her down, because she will know how great of a person she is, and how she deserves to be treated. (run on sentence huh? lol)

Lastly...maybe lol ok so the last goal I'm going to put. I plan to be accepting no matter what path Ani's life leads. I hope to lead her "in the right path". Whatever that path is. When you think about it, the main thing we all strive for in life is simply happiness. I want Ani to be matter what it takes for her to be that way. My DH will disagree and isn't nearly as openminded as I am. But he will get over it lol I plan to support her no matter what. I truely hope and believe Ani will be a very special person, a strong woman, that knows what she wants, and is free to express herself. :)

What are some of your goals? They don't have to be as long and wordy as mine...but what is some of the things you plan to teach your little one or hope to encourage? :)

  Kristina & Ani Rose 3/21/03   

"A child said, What is the grass