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Sun, 04-07-2013 - 2:17pm

I wanted to start a spring chit-chat to discuss goings on in family or mommy life. This board has been so quiet because of the changes and I'm hoping people will start coming back if they see we at least have one active discussion.

Does anyone have spring vacation planned?

How's your LO doing?

Are you working or SAHM? If you returned back to work, how has it been transitioning back to work after baby? If you are a SAHM, how has your life changed since your LO's arrival?

Do you plan to have any more children? If so, how when do you plan to TTC again?

How many children do you have? How old are they? How are they transitioning to the baby?

What toys does your baby play with?

Anything else you want to share?

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Sun, 04-07-2013 - 2:44pm

No vacation planned. We went out of town last weekend about three hours away and it was our first long car ride with the baby. The in-laws drove, so it wasn't too bad. He slept all the way back. I'd love to take a trip, but our money is really tight right now. 

My son is 14 weeks today! I was looking at his weekly pictures I've been posting on FB and he's grown so much. He's in 3-6 month clothes right now, but I'd say only for a couple more weeks. He's really long. He's almost too long for his swing and bouncy seat. We need to start transitioning him to his crib soon. He sleeps in his bouncy seat that we place in the crib. He naps in his swing. We started spoon feeding him oatmeal cereal and he tries to suck it off he spoon... hasn't quite figured it out yet. We only started it because he's been eating 5oz every two hours recently and he's really been paying attention to our food. He'll literally watch us pick it up and put it in our mouths. We're going to start getting his formula, diapers and wipes at Sam's Club in bulk beacuse it will save us $100/month, which really helpful since we're on limited income now. We decided we're going to start putting him to bed earlier because he takes an evening nap from 7:30-9:30 and we put him to bed for the night at 10pm, but he gets up at 2am to eat and sleeps until 6-7am. DH let him sleep through his nap to see how long he'd sleep and he slept until 2am without us waking him first, so we'll probably just start putting him to bed by 8pm.

I quit my job to be a SAHM. It's been really nice to be here all the time. I definitely get more done. There's no way I could have returned to a ful-time job and Ricky still getting up at night anyway. I feel like even if he wasn't getting up, I wouldn't be able to do both jobs to my full capacity. However, in another way I find it hard to be home all day:  the lack of adult interaction and it's all baby all the time. I wouldn't want to miss any of his milestones or any first experience. I think it would be a little easier if I let the in-laws watch him every once in a while so DH and I can have some couple time. I know they really want to, but I am having a hard time letting go. I also know it's important to help them bond with him, for my sanity (time away from him), and for dh to help maintain our relationship before baby (our us time). We've had "us" time, but while the baby was asleep, so working around his schedule and if he wakes up then it's over, so it's an adustment. Plus, since we worked out our sleeping arrangement... me from 10pm-6am and him from 2am-10am, so we both get 8 hours, we really don't get to sleep together long.

I'm not sure if I want one or two more children. I want to see how it goes with two to see if I want a third. If our next is a boy, then I'd only have the two anyway, but if I have a girl, it'll leave it more open. DH would love to only have two because he stil wants to be able to maintain our relationship and he feels like the more kids there are the harder it will be. I just feel like kids add so much to your life. As far as how close I want to have them... I'm not sure. Ideally, I would LOVE a 3-year age gap, but I feel pressured to have them closer (2-years apart, so TTC again when Ricky is 1) because I will be 29  this year (DH is 31) and I'm not sure if I want a third or not. I'm not sure if it would be easier to get the baby stuff over all at once too. Otherwise, I'd be out of it and then have to do it all over again.

Ricky is my only child right now.

Ricky loves rattles and anything that lights up. We're going to get him the jumperoo within the next couple of weeks.

Does anyone have any reccomendations for toys for a 3 month old?

I just can't wait for him to start sitting unassisted- he can sit propped up in the corner of the couch. He can roll over from belly to back. He's been teething for a while. He smiles, coos, and laughs all the time. I also can't wait to get out in the nice spring weather with him and in the pool this summer, especially since he loves baths now. He actually stopped crying in his carseat a couple of weeks ago, too. He loves when you walk with him. If you just try to stand him up, he'll start taking steps- it's too cute.

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Wed, 04-10-2013 - 1:50pm

Ricky is doin so well! He looks so grown up in that pic, it's such a shame they grow up so fast. It's great that you don't have to return to work, I'm hopin to be able to do the same.

I'm lookin forward to Jemima reachin 4 months because it opens up so many more toys. We have a bumbo, a Leapfrog Activity Station and a door swing that are all suitable from 4 months. I feel like she is gettin to an age where she needs more attention to be occupied rather than just bein happy lookin round in her swingy chair.

Attached is a pic of her with her big brother.

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Wed, 04-10-2013 - 8:52pm

Thanks, everyone who sees him says he looks like he should be twice the age he is, lol.

Looks like it's just the two of us checking in from time to time. I hope more people join in. I'd love to hear more about her your daughter is doing or how your son is adjusting to being a big brother. Your kids are adorable. Looks like your son is really attched to his little sister. What the age difference because he looks like he's about 2 years older.

I agree about four months. I felt like 3 months or even 2 months for that matter was more fun with him smiling, cooing, laughing, rolling over, etc. As MIL put it, each month it gets easier. I can't wait to have another, but no sooner than fall of 2014 (2 years apart). The newborn phase is exhausting (particularly the first two months).

 I just reached out to several friends and family today to fill up my April calendar to have more adult interaction- of course having the baby with me. I love being home with my son and seeing him experience everything for the first time, but that's the day hardest is just all baby all day. I guess it could be worse, I get to work out every day (if I choose) during the baby's nap time- dh is working from home right now, so his schedule is fairely flexible at least for the next two months. I feel like I've been spoiled having him here (and fortunate)... I have no idea how I'll do all this again with him out of the house. Luckily, he only has to get a PT job, so he'll still be here some. Ideally, within the next two years, his goal is to be able to make enough money from home to not have to work outside of the home.

I agree about the toys. I can't wait to get him the jumpero in a couple of weeks. He's doing well sitting with support- like propped in the corner of the couch. He's been so inquistive about his hands lately, too. He stares at them intently. He's been kicky recently, too. He'll kick his bath tub and bouncy seat. Today, we took him out in the stroller without the seatseat and he was sucking on the strap (he puts everything in his mouth now) and propped his feet on the tray.

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 6:51am

Thanks, everyone who sees him says he looks like he should be twice the age he is, lol.

Looks like it's just the two of us checking in from time to time. I hope more people join in. I'd love to hear more about her your daughter is doing or how your son is adjusting to being a big brother. Your kids are adorable. Looks like your son is really attched to his little sister. What the age difference because he looks like he's about 2 years older. I hope you're able to stay homw with your kids. Are you going to have any more? do you find it harder or easier having them close together?

I agree about four months. I felt like 3 months or even 2 months for that matter was more fun with him smiling, cooing, laughing, rolling over, etc. As MIL put it, each month it gets easier. I can't wait to have another, but no sooner than fall of 2014 (2 years apart). The newborn phase is exhausting (particularly the first two months).

 I just reached out to several friends and family today to fill up my April calendar to have more adult interaction- of course having the baby with me. I love being home with my son and seeing him experience everything for the first time, but that's the day hardest is just all baby all day. I guess it could be worse, I get to work out every day (if I choose) during the baby's nap time- dh is working from home right now, so his schedule is fairely flexible at least for the next two months. I feel like I've been spoiled having him here (and fortunate)... I have no idea how I'll do all this again with him out of the house. Luckily, he only has to get a PT job, so he'll still be here some. Ideally, within the next two years, his goal is to be able to make enough money from home to not have to work outside of the home.

I agree about the toys. I can't wait to get him the jumpero in a couple of weeks. He's doing well sitting with support- like propped in the corner of the couch. He's been so inquistive about his hands lately, too. He stares at them intently. He's been kicky recently, too. He'll kick his bath tub and bouncy seat. Today, we took him out in the stroller without the seatseat and he was sucking on the strap (he puts everything in his mouth now) and propped his feet on the tray.

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 7:27am

My little boy turned 2 last week so there's 21 1/2 months between them. Are you excited at the thought of havin another one? We had a slight slip up last night but hopefully we won't be havin another one in the near future Undecided We defo have our hands full right now, I especially do when I'm watchin the two of them on my own durin the day when DH is out at work.

I'm hopin more people are gonna join in at some point, I was really lookin forward to hearin everyones birth stories but everyone has vanished. I'm CL on PAL (Pregnant after a Loss) and it's the same over there, just absolutely dead. Guess we can just keep the threads goin and hopefully others will pop in at some point n leavae a comment or two

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 3:21pm

Yeah, everyone left when the boards changed because of log in issues. I know I wasn't able to get in for the longest. I still have troubles every once in a while, but if I try again, it works.

I was wanting to hear everyone's birth stories, too and see how mommy life is going for everyone.

It's like MIL put it, every month that goes by gets easier. DH was like why rock the boat then and have another.... psh, we're definitely having at least one more. I'm just not sure if I want to try when DS is one or two. How do you like the age difference between yours? Most peole around my age that have kids have kids 2 years apart.

I know what you mean about the slip up... we started doing it again about a month after and we weren't using protection and I thought I was pregnant when my son was only 2 months old... can you imagaine? We're using condoms now for the first time ever, so it's weird for us, but we also don't want to have another kid until at least fall 2014. My brother (and his girlfriend), who is six years younger than me is expecting his first kid at the end of October. I also have two cousins, who are sister in laws due at the end of November. One of those girls will have three kids all 18 months apart (so a newborn, 18 month old, and 3 year old- she'll have her hands full). Another of my cousins had a kid 8 weeks after me and my SIL had a baby 8 weeks before me. We've had a lot of babies in my family recently, lol. I guess that's the way it happens.

My only concern when I do have another is giving my son enough attention. I feel like at that point, he'll be able to get out and do fun things with, but then it'll be all about the baby. How do you manage?

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Thu, 04-11-2013 - 5:44pm

I find it works the other way around, DS gets my attention n DD just sits in her rocky chair. She only demands attention for feeds. It's so different with your second. I feel like I wanna go back and look after DS with the ease I look after DD. I guess it's a much smaller adjustment second time round.

My sister has 4 children, there's 11 months between 1 and 2, 13 months between 2 and 3 and 5 years between 3 and 4! I think the first 3 are prob a bit close together tho they are very close because their ages are so similar. Her 4th is very advanced for her age because she copies what the others do.

You've just got to do what's best for you when it comes to havin another and also remember that you don't always have alot of control over the age gap, you might become pg before you plan to or it might take you a while to conceive again. Just do what feels best.

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Fri, 04-12-2013 - 8:42am

Shoo, I bet in one way it was hard for her to have them so close together- at least in the newborn phase, but yeah, I'm sure they are super close. My sister is 11 months older than me and we were the best of friends growing up.

I guess I'll just let it happen when it's supposed to and quit over thinking it.Last time, we TTC a girl and while I would still love to have a daughter, I may just let whatever happens happen. I love my son and it would be cool to see him with a brother, plus we already have all this boy stuff and boys LOVE their mommas! Plus, I feel like if I have another boy, I'll definitely be done and if it's a girl, it'll leave it more open... anyway.  In the meantime, I'll enjoy my son! I'm glad to hear that it's easier to adjust to a 2nd and that the older one won't be neglected in attention. I think I over stimulate my son anyway. I feel like any wakeful moment, I should be interacting with him rather than just letting him chill, lol. I tried to GOOGLE it too see, but couldn't find any answers.

I took his sling out of his bathtub this morning, he's doing well sitting up at this point. He's also been sleeping really well in his crib and pack and play all week, surprisingly. I just put him in there to see how he did and he fell asleep right away and unswaddled. Now, I just feel like I need him to loose the middle of the night feeding. He's been eating baby oatmeal with a spoon for a week now, too. At first he was trying to suck it off the spoon, like he would a bottle, now he kind of slurps it. I'm going to wait until his four month check up (he'll actually be 18 weeks) and see what he pedi had to say about starting more baby food. In a way, it's went by fast, in another way... not. That first month was rough. I don't see how people go back to work after one or two months. Three months, maybe because at that point the baby is pretty well adjusted.

It's hard for us to know what baby gear is actually necessary. The way everyone makes it sound you need everything under the sun.... we orginially got the diaper geanie, bottle warmer, co-sleeper and we returned them all. I don't feel like I need to get a sling carrier with him because I don't want to "wear" him. When I do have another, it may be more necessary with a toddler and infant, but not now. DH thinks we need a walker, but I want to get the jumperoo. I tried to put Ricky in the jumperoo my cousin has and it was on the lowest leve, so he could reach the ground, but he just stood there, lol. I guess, he'll need more time in it to figure it out. He did try to suck on padding, but he's putting everything in his mouth at this point. He does't have a playmat because we just use a blanket. Really, the only toys he has at this point is bath toys, which he's too young for and rattles. He has board books, too, which he seems to enjoy listening to. Do you have any toy recommendations for 4 months since he'll be 4 months in about another week.

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Sat, 04-27-2013 - 10:05am

How you doin? Had my big girl weighed on Thurs, she's 17lb 9oz! I thought I was expectin again coz I've had nausea for days but got a BFN yesterday so must just be a bug or hormones goin back to normal. I think my milk supply is diminishin a bit and feel like AF may be on its way so might all be related. Remember my sister I was tellin you about that has 4 children, just found out she's 11 weeks with no. 5! Her youngest will be around 20 months when this one arrives.

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Sun, 04-28-2013 - 8:03am

I'm doing well. I've been meeting up with a couple of stay at home moms (friends from high school) that I reconnected with on FB recently. I can't stand being in the house. One of my friends has three kids (5, 3, and a newborn), so she likes to be at home, which I don't mind because I can go over her house to chit chat and it gets me out of the house. The other one has a 10 month old daughter, so six months older than Ricky and we've been going to different parks or malls to walk around. I have plans with DH two cousins (one has a newborn and the other has a three year old) and their friend, who also has a newborn.

We've been more careful for the most part, but we've also been doing alternative things rather than just BD (I'm sure you can use your imagination to know what I mean). Ricky sleeps about 10 hours and wakes up after five, so that's been nice. He's teething really bad, though, so he's been extra fussy. We go to the doctors next Monday, but I've weighed him at home and he's 16lbs, so I'm sure he'll be close to your daughters weight. Everyone tells me how stout he is. I'm hoping he'll outgrow that a little when he starts crawling and walking. We're going to get a playmat (we've just been using a blanket for tummy time) because I put him on one at my friends and he was cracking up swatting at the toys, plus it would allow me to put him down. He likes for me to pack him around- half of the time I have to carry him around stores and push his stroller. And.. I usually have to hold him while I eat, too. We're also going to get a jumperoo real soon- I told DH he needs more toys that he can stimulate himself with because I am always holding him and constantly trying to entertain him, so I'm pretty exhausted by the time I do go to sleep. I'm open to getting pregnant anytime now, but I know the soonest DH would want to is this time next year and probably the year after.

I think your daughters weight is fine considering how big she was when she was born. I know you said you had not been as careful, too, but I'm glad you're not preggo this soon (if that's what you want). Is this your first period? Wow, I can't belive your sis is expecting again, but to each their own. Some people are truly maternal and that many kids and close in age fits their family dynamic well.

Is your daughter hitting any new milestones? Rolling over? cutting teeth?

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