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Fri, 10-05-2012 - 6:38am

Aw, that must be hard to be away from DH when he's working so much. At least on the bright side, his money will help buy baby stuff you still need.

It's been hard for me to resist buying baby stuff. I really want the stroller now! DH wants me to wait until after the shower b/c our bedroom is mess right now- in the middle of a re-model to prepare for the baby, so we won't have anywhere to put baby stuff until after our shower.

Yeah, it sounds like a good plan in principle, but I always feel/have felt like my principal tries to push me out of my job. I don't want to leave on those terms, but she's always making negative remarks and I never hear anything positive from her. Yesterday, I had lunch duty and it's for 100 kids (1 teacher w/100 kids), so it can get pretty loud. Well, they had a special cookie treat, so it was really loud. I turned off the lights to get their attention, which only worked for about half of them anyway and I yelled twice that they were two loud (I can't even yell that loud anyway). The secretary, who was collecting money for milk, even yelled and they couldn't hear her b/c they talked right after her. The principal came in and asked me if I needed to take a break b/c they weren't that loud, to which I responded yes they were. I even had a couple of kids who were putting their hands over the ears to block out the noise. She eventually blew her whistle (so don't tell me they weren't too loud). They were chatting so much that when they were dismissed for recess two grades had to stay behind b/c they didn't finish their lunch- ridiculous! I brought it to one teacher's attention, who's on "compliant committee" to bring it to our principals attention to say something to the student body about them eating vs. talking so much/loud, so when they are dismissed they are ready to go. Needless to say, I get paid for Jan and Feb, but I'd have to budget if I want to be off during March (and come back after spring break). Otherwise, I have to make my mind up by the beg. of Feb if I am staying home with this one or not, so DH has time to find a job.

That's so sad about MIL. I don't really have issues with my MIL, but more my mom. If anything, I just hope people don't tell us what to do when our child is concerned, which I do anticipate especially from MIL. I usually bring something to DH attention and he addresses it with his mom, so her and I don't have a rift, but I think when our child is concerned, I will speak up. I can see her saying something about him being too cold/too hot, etc.

I think DH is excited about one, he's an only child. He'd like two just so their are siblings. I guess if I had one of each, I may change my perspective about having a third, but we'll see. I always said four, then changed it to three, but it would be hard for me feeling complete as a mother of two if I always saw myself with a little bigger family.

I'm hoping I won't have to buy too much stuff when I'm pregnant next time, especially maternity clothes, since I want to lose all the baby weight then some. Online shopping is very easy and convenient- I love it!

Did you do the binding/corset last pregnancy? I was thinking about doing it b/c other cultures do it and it's supposed to help you shrink down pre-pregnancy weight faster.

We had our Labor and Delivery Class part 1 last night- DH closed his eyes during the video. I am so terrified of the epidural, but DH doesn't think I'll be able to tolerate the pain and he doesn't want to see me in unnecessary pain. I think I may look into Hypnobirthing. Plus, the squatting position seems to be the easiest one vs. laying down fighting gravity.

I know what you mean about being tired- I've been falling asleep b/w 7-8 and waking up at 6am. I officially have my lesson plans/copies planned through October. My observation is this month too, woohoo- NOT!  Now I have to start working on November and December, so I can work on my sub lesson plans.   

I can relate about moving taking away from the baby, but at least once it's finished... it's finished. We have so much stuff in our hallway (out of the bedroom) to get ready for the remodel, which probably won't even begin for another week. But it's really hard for me to navigate with a big pregnant belly and I still have to put up with it for another month. DH is working so hard though- that's why I love him being home. I feel like he gets so much more done being home then I ever would b/c he can work on things that I can't pregnant or not.

We just got my car worked on, so it's one less expense after the baby comes, but now I think my muffler is loose b/c it's sounding really loud. DH and I decided that we're going to buy a 50" TV during Black Friday too b/c that's the only thing we need to finish off the living room (we remodeled over the summer).

Yes, 90 days does feel like enough time- b/c I want to see my baby, but dreading the labor... but NO b/c there's still so much to do. I think there will always be something to do though it was the same way talking DH into TTC- we kept putting it off (finding excuses), then when we were ready to try we miscarried twice, so we're definitely ready to have our baby now! I hope this baby isn't a 9-10lb baby when he comes b/c everyone keeps commenting how  huge I am for 27 weeks, which I would never do to a pregnant person.

 

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Mon, 10-08-2012 - 10:10pm

yeah, its tough. but it is what it is. 

i would definitely wait until after your shower. youre going to get a ton of stuff. i opened presents at my shower for 2 hours lol. and you def wont need the stroller until the baby comes anyway lol

i could never be a teacher. i dont now how you can deal with any of that!! lol

one thing i can say. people will always tell you how to raise/handle your child. whether its friendly advice, or strongly asserted opinions. you just kind of have to smile and nod and say something like "ill have to try that" or "i never thought of that" and move on. just keep in mind, they really do think they are helping lol.

my MIL was a labor/delivery nurse for like 20 years (and has 6 children) so i tend to take her advice when it comes to babies lol

ive never heard of the binding thing. i didnt really do anything special. weight watchers lol. im going to go right back as soon as im allowed.

the epidural seems super scary, but its really not too bad. i didnt really labor, and then ended up with the c section so i never had to do any heavy laboring or pushing. i def thought about the whole squatting thing, but i never looked into anything special for the nonmedicinal pain management.

i cant imagine having to go through losses, so im sure that makes a big difference in how you are dealing with being pregnant. im toooooottallyyy over it lol

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Wed, 10-10-2012 - 4:42pm

I did try not to register for onsies, blankets, diapers, wipes, pacis, etc. b/c that kind of stuff I figured people would get anyway. I do have some bigger items on my registery, but I was using it more as a guideline, so I still knew what I had to buy after the shower. Obvisouly, we're buying the crib and stroller. Someone already bought the bouncy and swing. The only other two big items on our register are the pack and play and high chair (which we won't need right away anyway). I know my mom got so excited she started buying bigger things before I even registered. She told me two things (apparently she got a lot) the baby monitor and bassinet/co-sleeper, but we won't be using either, so we'll be returning those to go toward a gift card for things we will use. As much as I want to buy the stroller, since we're remodeling the bedroom too, we probably won't even buy it until mid December.

We have a murder mystery party and Halloween to plan for and both need costumes. DH already has his Karate Kid costume for the 80's murdery party and his Michael Meyers for Halloween. I'm Cindi Lauper for 80's theme murder mystery and I have the wig, gloves, and jewlry, but having a hard time finding clothes for it being pregnant. I'm going to be batgirl for Halloween, so I'll probably just order in the plus size section for that- no biggie.

Our 3rd annniversary is the Wednesday after our shower. I told DH I want two pair of earrings and he wants dental work... he's always so practical with his gifts, but whatever he wants, he'll get. I still may sneak him a watch or wallet or something.

That's good advice and a good way of handling that. Hopefully that shuts people up, lol. I can understand you taking advice from MIL then.

I up about 20lbs now... so sad :smileysad: I hope I don't gain too much more. I want to be able to lose most of the weight in the first threee months after, so I hope I'm being practical about that.

How's everything else going for you?

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Mon, 10-15-2012 - 11:08am

yes, you will definitely get onesies and all that lol. i made a registry, my mom was like, "you should make one in case people want to buy you things". in other words, shes throwing me some sort of shower. she calls it a sprinkle lol. they sprinkle you with gifts instead of shower you lol. mostly you get clothes. i figured out that we have to buy a new car seat, which im bummmed about. just dont really want to spend the money, but the expiration date on DD's is dec 2012, so its a no go. i wanted to get a new stroller anyway because hers didnt hold up well, and its girly. so, i found a travel system i like. it says its only available in store, and they dont have it in our local BRU, of course. that happened with DD too. i found one i loved and then it was discontinued. im not a fan of really babyish designs/patterns. and i want something neutral. just in case i do have another baby lol. the one i found is like, gray and black. other than that, i put a new bath sling, some hooded towels, some toys and crib sheets. i want to put a new humidifier on there, i just dont know which one to pick. i put a few clothing items on there, but not alot because people dont generally go by your registry for outfits anyway. everything else we can reuse. crib, pack n play, swing etc. none of that stuff is girly at all. my mom is making the bedding, so i dont have to worry about that. we have the bassinet in our room still from DD, it hold laundry thats waiting to be folded or blankets most of the time lol. 

i am going to be a skeleton for halloween. i have a black tank top that i got an iron on transfer thats a ribcage and a baby skeleton. ive had that since midsummer lol, i love that shirt. so i bought white duct tape and im gonna make bones to put on the sleeves of a black shirt and the legs of black pants. i pretty much always dress up. last year, DD was snow white and i was the wicked queen lol. shes being minnie mouse this year. she went to disney with my mom a couple weeks ago and came home with a halloween minnie costume. its an orange dress with big sparkly black polka dots. sooo cute!

we dont usually do anniversary gifts, we just go to dinner. my bday is in november and i told DH i want tickets to this concert the first week of december. i know, im crazy lol. im gonna be sooo pregnant but i dont care. everytime this band comes around, we can never go. and being 8 months pregnant isnt a good enough reason for me not to go. lol the venue is small and there are places to sit. so one is going to not give me a seat lol.  

i am also up about 20 lbs. its depressing :/ they say 9 months up, 9 months down. but, alot of the weight is baby. they say between the baby and all the fluid its like, 20-25 lbs or soemthing. so, it shouldnt be too hard to lose it in 3 months. but, those first few months home are exhausting. its going to be hard to excersise. especially with it being january, its not like you can jsut go out for a walk, ya know? im a little worried about that. im a very lay person, lol. i really have to forcce myself to work out. im hoping that i can just lose with diet in the beginning.

as far as everything else, its going ok. im so glad i cut my hours at work, what a difference!!! i wasnt making it 8 hours anymore.  is just enough lol. its getting into the home stretch. ive pretty much declared dec 1 as my last day. im playing it by ear, depending on how i feel, i might stay another week or two, but i highly doubt it. im excited to take DD to see the nutcracker this year. shes never been but she LOVES to watch ballet. she has since she was a baby. we took her to SIL's dance recital when she was just like a year old and she just stared, and mimiced the ballet dancers arm movements lol. shes in dance classes this year, and she loves it. so i think shes going to really really love seeing a real ballet. ive started my christmas shopping, i have 3 presesnts for DD. 2 things i have to make, but one is a toy lol. im making her dolls that you cut out and sew together and then stuff. and im making her a play makeup set. ive been saving my empty makeup contianers and im going to get cheap nail polish and pour it in there and let it dry. i bought a wooden box im going to paint to put it all in. as far as the rest of my shopping, i think im going to be crafty this year and make a lot of stuff. we have lots of people we buy for, and i think im going to like, make candy and put it in mason jars that ill paint with pretty christmas designs. i just never know what to get for people lol. then i end up giving them like, a candle holder or something boring, ya know? i just know i dont want to have a ton of shopping to do come december!

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Mon, 10-15-2012 - 7:02pm

Yeah, basic stuff for the baby kinda goes without saying or in this case registering for. I'm sure we'll be loaded up with diapers too. At least the showers I have been to people are. I think it's nice that your mom is throwing you a sprinkle. I've never heard of that. Do a lot of people go to those for people who have already had showers? People where I live (Ohio) or at least in our family definitely would not go for something like that. They've talked about people who've had more than one shower. Baby stuff is expensive and especially if you have your children further spaced apart, like you said things expire, so you have to update your baby gear.

I love your Halloween costume idea! I think we may have to sell our murder mystery costumes (I pieced different items together to make the costume and it only cost about $20) b/c no one else seems to be into this year, which is kind of sad because we're the one going through a remodel and with a baby on the way. We're still into it, but everyone else is being tight with money this year. It's a little frustrating b/c we've done this for three years in row and now no one seems to want to do it. The Batgirl costume worked out well though.

DH changed his anniversary gift idea since finding out we can make payments for dental work. He wants a watch to start a watch collection. hehe. We don't celebrate any holidays (we're not supposed to celebrate Halloween, but we kind of do at our cousins house). We won't let our children, though. It's a religion thing, we're not baptized members of our church, but we still believe/follow (for the most part) what they do. Once we're baptized, we'll  not do some of the things we do now- like Halloween. It's a non-denominational church that follows a lot of the Old Testament.  So, birthdays and anniversaries are all we have. We still celebrate our dating anniversary too since we were together for 8 1/2 years before we got married, but we just go to dinner for that one.

Your baby will probably move like crazy when you're at the concert. My baby has been moving all the time now. It cool/awesome to see/feel, but when he moves both sides of my stomach it kind of is freaky. I haven't seen a hand or foot yet, so kind of looking forward to that, too.

I told DH that by Halloween the baby is supposed to be about 3lbs. I feel like I am carrying more than that. People keep saying how big I am, but I am all belly- haven't gained anywhere else. One woman asked when I was due today because she said I was carrying low. I said around the first of the year and she said you must be having a big baby then. He's always sat low. I'm not sure if it's because he's a boy, he'll come early, or it's just the way he lays.

I've been looking into natural birthing techniques. I just finished Hypnobirthing. I'm going to read Natural Childbirth The Bradley Method next. I also am going to start pre-natal yoga, practice breathing, and practice labor positions. I plan to have low lights, nature type music, and lavendar scent (calming scent) in the room. I'm going to call the hospital to see if they offer a birthing stool as labor support and purchase yoga ball for support, too.

That's good to know that I had a realistic expectation about the baby weight. Hopefully nursing helps too. I have to motivate myself to work out, but if I have a goal to work towards (energy or not) then it's easier for me. April is our anniversary of when we first got together (12 years), so if I can get down to pre-baby weight by then I'll be happy.

I'm glad cutting your hours worked out better for you. I'd take off the first of December if I were you. If anything, it may be a good time for you and your daughter to bond before the baby comes.

It's definitely getting harder/I'm more tired at work myself. I was planning to start my November plans today, but I got a new student, so I didn't get anything done because I was scrambling find her books, supplies, desk, etc. that she needed. I have conferences this week too, so I know I'm going to be wiped by the end of the week. I probably won't even get to my November plans until next week, but then next week is my formal observation, doctors apt (nothing to do with school, but still), and our parenting class (again, nothing to do with school, but yet another thing to throw into the mix).  Ugh, I'm exhausted just thinking about everything I have to do just to get ready for all of that.

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