Fight w DH
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|Sun, 01-08-2012 - 9:02am|
This is embarrassing. We had a fight over whether computer games are good for kids or not. I was yelled at out in public, started crying, did not want to get in the car to go home but had to because we had to relieve someone watching the kids. We continued to fight on the way home. I feel so humiliated.
I started that discussion because I am concerned about computer games, I think the boys (4.5 and 6) are still too young for them, even the age-appropriate ones, and our K teacher strongly opposes them. I think it's better to teach math and spelling by traditional methods but nothing, no book, no parent interaction, nothing can compete with Angry Birds. :) I felt DH is making a unilateral decision to let the kids play, and I wanted to talk to him, out of kids' earshot, about having to discuss the issue and agree between us first. I did not say no, I just said I have never read anything saying that games are good for kids, let's research it further, let's talk... he got defensive and it ended up with an ugly public scene.
Well, later that same day the kids started asking to play the game, and it was their time to eat and go outside. I wanted to negotiate with them that they at least play after we do all that, when it's dark outside and we can't go walking. But again, no activity can compete with an iPad, and I can't win over when there are 3 of them (2 boys and DH). Besides, now I am "bad" for not letting them play. I gave up. But the point is, the game is interfering with the kids' routine now. So we fought again.
He did say "I love you" later, I guess it's tough for guys to say "sorry". Maybe he is not sorry after all, LOL.