Partner feels he needs a second job??!!!!

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Partner feels he needs a second job??!!!!
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 11:26pm

So  I am almost 10 weeks pregnant, and naturally my bf and I have been discussing things like my mat leave, his mat leave, etc. And he brought up that he feels he needs a second job. Not right now but in a few months, to help us save some money. Well I am glad he is concerned about things like that, it is a good attitude to have i guess, but also I keep thinking, if he gets a second job I will be left all alone for the last few months of my pregnancy, when it will be the most difficult for me even doing simple daily tasks. Since  I am super tiny the dr has said it will be quite difficult for me just getting around, not just out and about for errands but even just around my house. What If I am at home alone and I need something I can't reach?? I cant reach alot, since I am 4'9". We have a small apartment so we have to store some things out of my reach, which normally I would just hop on a chair or the counter, but obviously that won't happen once I can hardly move around.Not to mention its not safe. Or what If I drop something, or can't get myself off the couch....I'll be all alone. He already has a good job, he is a chef for the Fairmont Chateau. He makes almost $20 and hour and will be recieving another raise or two before the baby is even born. I won't be working right up until a week or so prior to having the baby either, I will most likely be taking mat leave 3 months or so early. We live in the mountains and in the winter it will be near impossible for me to get around easily and safely. I expressed my concerns to him, but he just keeps saying "what else are we supposed to do for money?" In the last month we already have $1000 saved up. I am really not that concerened financially. We know we can save alot of money quickly if need be, we've done it in the past when we moved across the country. What should I do? I feel like he will be abandoning me and leaving me to fend for myself when I am as huge as a house!

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sun, 08-12-2012 - 1:07pm

Thanks for the reply. I feel somewhat reassured lol I won't be able to deliver naturally, I've been told by every doctor that my pelvis is just too small. Which is fine by me as I'd prefer a c-section anyways. We do not have a vehicle since we live in a village, we don't need one, everything is pretty much within walking distance, if it isn't or if its crap weather we just use the bus. We save so much money not having one, especially with gas prices. We may think on purchasing a vehicle closer to when the baby is born, however we know we could manage without as well. So we'll see.

Are you also very small framed, or just short stature? As I am just tiny in every which way, I am only 82lbs lol I am asking because I am already showing like I am 4/5 months along, even though im not even 3 months. I assume its because I am so tiny, although it's been brought up, am I sure theres just one in there? I am sure there is, since two would cause higher HCG levels, and I literally have had no MS or anything, and my breasts just started being super sore this past week.