Labor & Delivery Fail

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Labor & Delivery Fail
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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 10:47am

I am an Early Intervention Specialist and work with special needs toddlers under the age of three.  Well, I really over did it at work yesterday afternoon by lifting the kids, etc, and started having contractions at 1:30 every 4-5 minutes apart, with increased vaginal discharge.  I called the dr and she told me what I already knew; to put my feet up and drown myself by drinking water.  She also said if they get closer and stronger to go to L&D. 

Around 9pm, my husband and I headed out to the hospital because they were getting stronger and I started feeling pressure down there. We drive the 45 minutes to get there only to be told they can't do ANYTHING for me since I'm not 20 weeks yet!  I was livid, so I called the dr on call to explain what was going on, and what I was suppose to do.  She said that the nurses were right, they don't take patients before 20 weeks, and that I either could go wait 4 hours in the ER to be seen, or go home, rest, and get an appointment to see my dr today.  *URG*  The dr. Reassured me that if I am in labor there is nothing they could do at this point, but let the baby be born.....Whaaaaa?  (I have a BAD history with this on call dr., but this put me over the edge.) 

DH and I opted to go home.  No sense in paying a $150 copay to go sit vertical in the ER for 4 hours.  Also, I wasn't very sure what the ER could do to help since the L&D unit didn't even offer a drug to stop my contractions!   I mean really...how hard is it to lay a pregnant woman on a bed, get out the fetal Doppler, listen to the heart beat, check her cervix, and adminester labor stopping drugs?!    (Sorry, just really upset about the whole ordeal!) 

This morning, I'm still having them, but they are not consistent, Thank the Lord.  I have an appointment with the nurse practitioner at 1:15, and I can't wait to find out if the baby is OK, and to make sure my cervix is still long and closed.  I do expect to be put on some sort of restrictions, and/or possible modified bedrest, as I have a history of a shortened cervix. 

Anywho, thanks for reading my rant, and if you pray, please say a prayer for Baby Macaroni and I.  Thank you!

 

 

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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 10:57am

Oh how frustrating is that?!!!!  That would hack me off too!!  KUP on how your appt goes!!  I said a little prayer for you and baby macaroni!!!!  Take care and rest as much as you can.

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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 1:44pm
that had to be so frustrating and so hard, oh my goodness, i hope the contractions continue to go away and everything is fine. keep us posted.
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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 5:26pm

Thanks so much ladies!  I just got home from the appointment.  It took the NP FOREVER to find the heartbeat.  She had to end up checking me, and feeling how large my uterus was to get an idea on the location of the baby.  He/She was nestled down close to my pelvic bone hiding!  I cried when we finally found it.  What a relief!

BTW, my uterus is hgaiheoifnwonfe (this is what most medical terms sound like to me.  LoL), which means it's tilted toward my back.  Could explain my frequent tail bone pain!/

The NP told me that constant BH contractions are no big deal, it's when they really start hurting that is scarey.  She said unless I'm doubled over in pain from them, then to not worry (yeah right).  My cervix is still long and closed, so that's great!

I was not prescribed an Rx for the contractions, although I would have felt better having one. 

Thank again yall!

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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 10:27pm

I am really sorry to hear this is happening to you. What a frightening experince! 

Unfortunately, I have to agree with Drs tho. A pregnancy is not considered viable until 24 weeks and even later in some places. Which is why in many countires abortion of a healthy fetus is considered legal until 24 weeks. It is a horrible thought but drugs to stop labour don't work the way we'd like them to. At 15 weeks there is just no medical soloution that is a happy one unless your body stops the contractions and labour on its own.

Drs see this all the time and can unfortunately be very clinical about it. They know how it works, they know the stats and they've seen it before. They tend to loose their bedside manner in this instance. Not at all nice for the poor mummy and daddy who are dealing with their own emotions. I'm absoloutly speaking from experience.

I would suggest that you immediately go on maternity leave from work. This is a serious situation and if you and bub recover your chances of it happening again and not ending happily is alot higher. As is your risk for pre-term delivery. Please, for the sake of your treasured baby who i know you love already, think seriously before returning to work.

I certainly will mention you and your baby in my prayers. 

Again, I'm so sorry.

Candice

 

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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 11:04pm
Thanks Candice! I needed to hear that. If only the dr would have explained it more like that, then maybe I wouldn't have been so upset.

As far as my job goes, my main manager called me at home to tell me I am not allowed to come back to work until they have a detailed note from the doctor explaining any restrictions I may have. She said, if I have restrictions that will not allow me to do my job to it's fullest, then we "will have a meeting."

Lord knows we need my income, so I have no idea how we are goiing to make it when they finally fire me.

I don't believe I have prayed so much in my life as I have in the last 24 hours.

Thanks for the thoughts and prayers everyone!

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Wed, 09-12-2012 - 11:53pm
Yeah, Its not nice thing for Drs to explain either tho. We love our babies before we hear a heart beat and they don't consider a baby viable for another 5 months or so, so it's a real conflict of interests and very emotionally charged subject.

I'm so glad your manager is willing to work around any restrictions you get put under...But um, i have a question...FIRE YOU? Isn't that illegal? They can't fire you for being pregnant, surely? I guess you are in the states? I'm in Aus, please tell me that the good ol' US is at least at our level when it comes to maternity leave and employee rights?

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 9:09am

Candice,

They can not fire me simply because I'm pregnant, but they can let me go if I can not meet my job decription.  I have to lift a lot of kids everyday, so the dr put me on lifting restrictions.  Once my mananger has that paper in her hand explaining my restrictions, then they have legal grounds to let me go.

I have only worked at this job for 5 months, so I haven't accumalated enough time with the company to qualify for FMLA, and if they fire me before 6 months, I will not be able to get unemployment benefits either.  Needless to say, DH and I are worried sick about our finacial future...especially with all the GIANT doctor bills coming in! 

If it comes down to the company having to let me go, I'm going to beg for a change in job description.  I'm willing to do house keeping if it would keep me employed throughout my prengnancy.

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:53am

Wow!  I work for a healthcare agency.  I am an RN but I place home health aides and certified nursing assistants into patients homes.  We often receive papers for temprary disability due to the fact that our aids can not meet work requirements of lifting, etc. We do not fire the aids but they sort of have a temporary leave of absence during their pregnancy (unpaid) with a job waiting for them when restrictions are lifted (after delivery). 

Regardless, I know the issue is more that you are worried about how you will make ends meet without the paycheck.  That is scary!  My DH is currently unemployed and searching so I know that hardship.

Hoping it all works out in your favor!!!  Glad to hear that with rest and fluids you were feeling better!

 

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 7:51pm
Argh, I wish I could help in some way. I don't always understand other countries rules and regulations but the current theme here is to get mum's into the work force and leave them there until their waters break. Then to get them back 6 weeks later or to give the mat leave if they resume their original position for another 12 months after. Anyhow, push is to accommodate pregnant women, even if that means changing their job discription or shuffling them sideways into a slightly different position. Would you be able to do something similar? Is there an administration position available?

I must say being a SAHM is a wonderful thing. All my friends work outside the home and while they love it, it just isn't for me. My DH works his little butt off so I don't have to work. It's his privillege I suppose to be able to say his wife needn't work. But don't you worry, I know what you mean about big bills, we aren't exempt from those. But having a baby here is free, so thankfully we have minimal Dr bills and DS#1 gets his ASD related costs covered so that is a big help. I am in no way nationalistic, But Australia really is the lucky country in many ways.

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Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:55pm

Oh my goodness, Candice!  I think we need to move to Aus!  Wow!

*By saying the following, I'm not looking for sympathy.  LoL  Just stating our real life facts.*

So far, it is costing us a little over $1,000 just to have the baby (due before the 28th week of pregnancy).  ,,,and that money is JUST for the doctor; that's not including what the hospital will charge!  Then add the fact that we are starting all over, as we got rid of everything for a baby. 

Then my oldest who has ASD has started having seizures, so we are in the middle of having him tested in a million different ways.  The hospital bill+CAT scan came in the mail yesterday, and DH and I just about had a heart attack.  Bleck!   We are anxiously waiting for the EKG and EEG bills, too.

As of today, my DH picked up a second job that he will be working on the weekends.  :smileysad:  But, it's good.  If my work lets me go, then we should be ok.  I just hate that he will be working 7 days a weeks. 

Since DH did get a second job, I may quit after a few more weeks.  I started having more BHC while putting laundry in the wash.  I need to think about the baby, and staying healthy so I can carry him or her full term! 

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