How to Handle Sister's Jealousy?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
How to Handle Sister's Jealousy?
5
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 1:55pm

Hi Ladies, I'm Nikki.

Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2012
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 2:11pm
That is tough. I would imagine that she didn't REALLY mean it when she said she would shoot you if you got pregnant before her. I am sure that if you tell her it will be OK after a while if not immediately. It isn't like you got pregnant again to hurt her - you are in a committed relationship and you want 4 kids... times a ticking.

I would personally probably wait to tell anyone until 12 weeks because the chances of something going wrong after that are much lower and if you tell anyone before then you risk her hearing it from someone other than you which probably wouldn't go over well.

Best of luck!
Proud Mom to Annika (4), Jamie (3), and 4 angels. Anxiously awaiting Baby #3!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-23-2010
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 5:03pm
I'm in a similar position. I'm young and my older sister is 28 years old and has been TTC for 7 years with no luck. The fact that this baby wasn't planned (and neither was my DS) will really hurt her.

So I have advice, but lots of sympathy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2007
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 11:27am

My advice is to tell her in private...perhaps over the phone or in an email.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-22-2012
Sun, 03-25-2012 - 5:29pm
I agree with the advice given here. She should hear it from you as early as you feel comfortable telling her - don't feel obligated to tell her very early on if you'd rather wait to tell anyone.

At 28 I too felt that time was "running out" and even considered having a baby on my own if I didn't meet anyone in a few years. I didn't meet my husband until I was turning 32, and I'm now pregnant with our first at age 34. It would've been great if we'd met a few years earlier and could have gotten started sooner, but life doesn't always work that way. So I can understand her sense of urgency, but chances are, she DOES have time. More importantly, she should TTC at the time that is truly right, which includes having a partner who is ready as well.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-07-2012
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 2:41pm

While I can understand why your sister would feel sad and even jealous, she still did not have the right to tell you that

Dyan

Due May 1, 2013 by ultrasound (April 27, 2013 by LMP)

Married DH 12/27/99

Mom to DD 9, DD 6, DS 3

PCOS; 4 miscarriages