New Mom Pressure?

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Registered: 07-05-2005
New Mom Pressure?
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 10:02am

Of course, there’s always been competition. Put ten mothers and their babies in a room together and inevitably the comparisons will start. Whose baby is rolling already — which baby is smiling or gurgling?

But back in the day, you could leave that room and those comments and comparisons behind. Now there are millions of websites (some dangerously inaccurate, unscientific and ill-informed) telling you what your baby is failing to achieve.

When I became a young mother, the only activity to do with a baby was to put it in a pram and go for a walk. Now there’s every class imaginable — each promising to enrich your baby’s experiences and even expand their intellect.

There’s baby gymnastics, baby music classes, baby yoga, baby massage, baby swimming, baby dance, baby pottery, baby cinema and baby sign language.

The pressure any new mother faces is enormous.

How have you felt since baby arrived?  Are you already feeling pressure about baby's milestones? How do you keep out all the voices telling you what you should/shouldn't be doing with/for baby?

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Registered: 01-23-2013
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 12:20pm

I have a friend who is quite the bragger. Her baby is so smart and advanced. ;)  I'm sure she is doing great and I understand the desire to brag and be proud of your child... but it is exhausting.  I dont' know why we can't just let babies be babies.  Instead she's constantly quizzing me about if my baby girl is doing xyz.. (and of course hers did that same thing when she was a month younger).  It does wear on me and I do find myself worrying.  I know it is silly, but it can be hard not to compare your child to other children.  I will say, however, that I have no plans to enroll baby girl in classes at a young age.  I want to soak up as much time with her as I can, so unless it is a mommy and me fun class, we'll probably wait until she's school age.