OMG.... I can't take this anymore!!! (Rant + need advice!)
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|Tue, 09-18-2012 - 12:45pm|
My daughter just turned 3 on the 10th of this month. She has turned into a MONSTER. We give her PLENTY of attention and do fun stuff with her ALL the time. During the day I do activities with her as much as I can ( I am in school, but take online classes for now and just actually go to my school for tests) During the time I need to be doing homework or studying, I have her play in her room or read or color, something like that.
She has started acting out SO bad, but not so much when my husband is around, just around me. She SCREAMS and CRYS at the TOP of her lungs when she has to take a nap or do ANYTHING she doesn't want to do. She has started talking back, Like if I ask her to pick up her toy or to be a little quieter she just looks at me and says " I don't want to" and keeps doing whatever she wants. If I try to make her go to time out for any reason she wont go and turns her body into what seems like a giant noodle so its really hard for me to get her to time out. I had to go to the health department the other day to get a copy of her birth certificate, and even tho I told her not to go in the big playhouse they have, because she was in trouble for SCREAMIN the WHOLE car ride (about 30 min) she RAN into it anyway before I could grab her and went to the very back of the house so that I couldn't get her out, another mom ended up having to help me then she SCREAMED like she way dying all the way home. On top of that, she also does this thing that makes me SOOO irritated. Ill say "Amora leave that alone/ get your feet off the couch/ etc.." and she will just look at me with this blank expression and KEEP DOING WHAT I SAID TO STOP DOING WHILE LOOKING AT ME!
She is also getting mad at me and peeing on herself and not telling me she has to use the bathroom sometimes, and she has been potty trained during the day for a long time.
We live in an apartment until we find a house we want, and the neighbors have knocked on the door several times and even called the police about the noise and I had to explain to them what was going on.
She NEVER use to be like this. We have tried every kind of punishment/reward system we can find and nothing works.
She is good for the most part when my husband is home. Other than talking back and the blank expression thing. We have also noticed she seems to be jealous of me and my husband. Like if my husband comes home from work and hugs me she runs up and try's to hug him too. Or if he is going to give me a kiss, she will start trying to talk to him to try to get him to pay attention to her instead.
Her behavior is so bad sometimes that after my husband gets home, I go in our room and close the door and cry from all the stress from the day. I can't get anything done, I feel sick a lot due to it, I get a lot of contractions on really bad days. My husband is trying to help me all he can, but we really don't know what else to do.
We even tried taking her to daycare so I could have a break sometimes and she cried and screamed so much at daycare I had to go get her cause she was disrupting all the other kids.
Im at a loss and I feel like I can't deal with all this anymore. My husbands mom takes Amora for the night when she can, and my parents live about 45 minuates away in the next state, and they dont get her that much because she is so horrible acting when she comes back that my mom feels bad for me.
Anyone have any other ideas we can try?????
Thanks for listening.
She IS going ot daycare when the baby gets here, we found one willing to work with her and they know how she acts right now, but it is a little pricey so we are waiting till the baby is here to send her.