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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 3:18pm

Is anyone else having nightmares (not scary dreams, just painful) after miscarriage?

I lost my boy 3 weeks ago (at 12 weeks pregnant) and haven't had a good nights sleep since.  At first it was dreaming that i was still pregnant, that I had a baby, etc.  It turned into waking up thinking I heard a baby crying.  Now it's mainly dreaming that I wake up after the d&c and they had me my tiny little guy and he is breathing but no one will help him.

It's gotten to the point that I don't even want to fall asleep because these dreams are so vivid that it feels real.

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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 5:00pm
I'm sorry you are having such bad dreams. I remember after my loss I was having a lot of painful dreams. I mainly kept dreaming that the scans were wrong and I never miscarried. I would wake up some days convinced I was still pregnant for just a moment then break down all over again. I think it's just our brains way of working through the emotions. I hope they let up for you soon. (((HUGS)))

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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 5:46pm

sorry you are having such dreams! I find when my mind is 'at peace' with 'whatever' was bugging or hurting me, then I have more peaceful dreams.

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Thu, 07-26-2012 - 12:03am

I'm so sorry you are having the nightmares.  My dreams stopped after my D&C (we knew for about 2 weeks that Will would probably not make it through the pregnancy), but I have something like flashbacks during the day.  Those dreams left me feeling very scattered and out of sorts when I woke up.  Hopefully, they will end soon for you!

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Sat, 07-28-2012 - 8:39am

It took time for me to quit having so many flashbacks and bad dreams.  I wouldn't go to sleep until I absolutely had to because I was afraid of the dreams.  It took time for those to ease up.  I have dreams once in awhile still that are about losing my son, but not nearly like they were.

(((HUGS)))  I ended up taking something to help me sleep.  It seemed to help me either not dream or not remember dreaming.  Took that for about 8 weeks or so.

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Sun, 07-29-2012 - 10:44pm
I had nightmares bad too, but mine were actually before the miscarriage happend. My baby stopped growing around 6weeks but o had no idea anything was wrong until two weeks later but I kept having awful nightmares of having a miscarriage. Everyone kept telling me it was my fears playing out in my dreams but now maybe my brain was tellig me something. I couldn't sleep at all because of my nightmares... Im sorry your going through all this and I hopw you can get some rest soon, its such an emotionally draining time, not being able to sleep makes it worse. Sending prayers your way.