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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 10:26am
I had my 23w appt yesterday and to my surprise it looks like my baby passes about 2w ago.
I never thought in a million years i would lose a child so late in my pregnancy. Ive had previous MC before as late as 10w but never in my 2nd trimester. This was suppose to be the happiest time of my life and now i feel like my whole life shattered. I still dont have the heart to tell my 3 older kids as they have been really excited i do have a 10m old. Im grateful for the kids i do have. Im grieving and in alot of pain emotionally.
How do u tell older kids theres no baby comming. Im not sure what to expect during this process...im suppose to find out today when they want to schedual everything. In the meantime i still have baby inside with me :(

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Tue, 02-28-2012 - 11:15am

I'm very sorry for the loss of your child.

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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 2:56pm

I'm so very sorry about the loss of your baby :(

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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 10:27am

oh, I am so sorry for your loss!!

Altho, I'm sure it's alot more devastating, having to lose a baby in the 2nd trimester, as opposed to the 1st trimester.....it all hurts, deep to your core & I can, at least, understand that!

I have an older dd & when I found out @ my doctor's appt., I called her 1st to tell her (maybe not the best way)....but, at the time, I felt I needed to talk to her 1st, over anyone else.

I had a missed m/c, so my baby passed around 9 weeks & I didn't know until my 12 week appt., going in, 'thinking' I will hear a heartbeat.....then I still had to wait another week to have a D&C.

Hugs to you for your heart to heal, there is no rhyme or reason why this happens!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 10:50am
BackInTheSaddle, i still have till next tuesday my appt will be to have the baby. We were also told we may want a funeral n that was a option to us. This is so hard i just dont even want to be around anyone. I dont want anyone to even touch me. I have a flutter of emotions and its had to process this all. I still dont want to believe it at all :((

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 11:36am

I can understand the feeling of being overwhelmed completely.

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 3:48pm

Thinking about you.

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Registered: 02-16-2012
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 4:27pm

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 05-25-2007
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 10:59pm
Ive been awaya frm here since my last post. This week has just been really tough and tomorrow i start the process. Tomorrow afternoon ill get dialated, i still dont know what to expect. I mean i have a idea....but not really. The though is just waiting one more day after is the worst part... Ive just had alot on my plate and i also 4 other kids also to worry about and that are going through things also and this juat really takes the cake. Ive never cried so much and had all these emotions going through me all at once.

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Registered: 02-16-2012
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 7:05am

Thinking of you today!

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Tue, 03-06-2012 - 8:21am

I know you have a lot on your plate.

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