I dunno if I'm coming, or going right now..

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I dunno if I'm coming, or going right now..
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Mon, 12-20-2010 - 11:14am

It's only been a week since I lost our baby. It feels weird even saying "baby". Like in my head it somehow

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Registered: 09-11-2006
Mon, 12-20-2010 - 12:38pm

Sigh. I totally understand how you feel. The comments you get can be so un helpful. The people who say them think that it makes you feel better. Yes you might have a child but trying for over a year (which we also did) is very hard and then to lose that precious baby is very hard to accept. You are in my thoughts. Being Lost is normal. Being angry is normal. It is all part of hte grieving process and it seems like you feel that way for a long time. Eventually it becomes less and less. Give yourself time. You will be okay. Yes you will probably think every little thing is wrong if you are to get pregnant again. It is something I have seen several of my friends go through. It is hard to not feel that way after losing a child. However I know that my friends who have gone through it have had healthy babies after a miscarriage. I hope that helps you. Just know there is hope. I am glad you have the opportunity to try and get pregnant again. I sometimes get jealous that others who have miscarriages can have babies again. I was not so fortunate. That is another story. Good luck to you and please feel free to come here and vent or scream or cry or whatever you need to do. Just don't forget to let yourself mourn for your loss. It is important to let yourself feel the angry, sad, lost feelings. It helps your mind and body to heal. (((((HUGS)))))

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Hi Lea,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. Huge (((HUGS))) to you. Keeping you in my thoughts.

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Registered: 10-05-2006

A lot of us feel or have felt the way you do. It totally isn't fair that this happens to anyone. We have been trying for our first since 2006 and were so excited when we got pregnant in June but sadly lost it to an ectopic in July. I sometimes get mad at the baby for implanting in the wrong stop and I know that is totally crazy because it was my body that did it or it was a fluke. Who knows? I just want to let you know that you are not alone even though it feels like it sometimes. I truly hope 2011 will bring good things for you.

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Sun, 01-02-2011 - 12:36pm

I'm sorry for your loss.

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