Lost our baby 13 weeks 4 days

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Registered: 11-22-2010
Lost our baby 13 weeks 4 days
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 12:40pm

Hi I'm Michelle, married to Andy and have one DS Carter who is 17 months. We planned our pregnancies and got our BFP for our second on November 10th. Last Tuesday, one week ago today, I went in for a routine doctor's appointment at 14 weeks and our baby no longer had a heart beat. I was in complete shock as I had an elective ultrasound 5 days before and the baby was kicking, healthy and had a strong heart beat. I don't know what happened 3 short days later, but I do remember having some sharp pains that were quick and intense on the day we probably lost our baby.

To say the least it's been a really rough week.

I decided to have a D& C procedure on Friday evening. I am still recovering emotionally and physically. I feel so alone but also surrounded by so many loving people. I have to go back to work tomorrow. My mom called today to ask if I could take her aunts that are in town visiting to lunch and to go shopping since she was taking the uncle's golfing. WTF? I told her no that I was going to rest today as this is my first day where I get to be home alone. My son is in daycare and my husband is at work. Emotionally I am not ready to go back to work, but I know I have to. My mom was angry with me and telling me I need to snap out of it and move on already. My parents don't believe in rest, mourning, etc.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Tue, 02-22-2011 - 2:50pm

((HUGS))) Michelle, I'm so sorry about your loss.

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Registered: 09-11-2006
Sat, 03-19-2011 - 11:46am
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand how it feels to have a mother who tells you to get over it. My mother in law told me to stop dwelling on it and to move on. It is not something you can just move on from. I hope you can find the support you need here. Again so sorry for your loss (((((hugs)))))