Does it help to have reminders?

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Does it help to have reminders?
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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 3:39pm

Does it help you deal with your pain to have little reminders of your baby (such as

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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 11:56pm
For me, it depends. I have reminders everywhere. It's been 9 and a half months, and Landon's swing still sits in my living room, my Molly Bear Landon sits there snuggled in his blankie and what would have been Landon's blankie. Landon's pictures are on the tv stand, and my two sculptures - a cast mold of Landon's foot and ankle and one of daddy mommy and angel baby sit right beneath the tv screen. In my kitchen, I have a drawer filled with bottles, bibs, and other baby items. Landon's room is completely set up, as if he should be sleeping in there right now. I have a lock of Landon's hair, sometimes I take it out and just touch it, but I haven't in a little while. His picture is on the fridge and a smaller one is in the "money" part of my wallet. I see him everywhere I look - I'm scared I'll forget.

But sometimes, I think I look past those items, sometimes I don't even see the swing, or the sculptures, or the pictures... sometimes it's just too hard. "It hurts to remember, but I don't want to forget."


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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 3:25pm

It is one month today since we lost our little angel.

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Mon, 01-17-2011 - 11:50pm
Hi, What a good question...And YES!!!.....We where very fortunate the hospital did a beauitful job preserving memories and items for my Husband and I to keep..Because of the extreme emergency of our situation with the placenta abruption and the surgery, and blood transfusions I needed, made the next 24 hrs critical and I was in no condition to think about pictures,footprints,teddybears ect...and the wonderful nurses did that for us. one nurse(my angel Karen) took such beauitful care of our son, she bathed and dressed him, even a diaper! wrapped in a handmade blanket, he was a prince..and she had him blessed and took pictures and foot prints,lock of hair and another nurse made a cast of his foot. all given in a keepsake box...I will cherish forever..We also had his pictures re-touched by babyangelpics.com and they hang in my hall..we have young children in our home so I am careful of the trama it may cause still? our 4yr old is sensitive to his death...she is very verbal in her greif and passing of him!..And I let her be. so keeping certain items is helpful and necessary. I will share them and his story later in life with my younger kids...he was loved,wanted and truly missed.....See you in heaven Nolo!... felt good to share that, and read other responses. Star
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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 1:27pm

ABSOLUTELY it helped me to have things around me the belonged to my son.

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Wed, 01-11-2012 - 2:36pm

I have a few reminders - Bregan's ashes are on our mantle in a special picture box, I have a couple of Willow Tree Figures and of course his pictures are through out the house. I wish I had gotten a clipping of his hair, but I totally forgot until months later after he passed away. The reminders do help - it helped ease the pain I had when he first passed away and it helps remind me of the love that filled our hearts even only for a short time.

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