Helping Your Children Cope With Grief

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Helping Your Children Cope With Grief
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Wed, 01-30-2013 - 2:36pm

I wanted to pass along this article from CNN on guiding your children through the grieving process, they talked to a family who lost their infant son to whooping cough: 

When the Nortons sat their kids down individually to tell them about Gavin's death, they tried to be mindful of each child's maturity level. Their oldest had just turned 6, their middle child was turning 5, and their littlest was 3.

"We used different language with our 6-year-old than we did with our 3-year-old," said Natalie Norton, 31.

"One thing we did right is, we made it very clear to the children that no matter what they felt, it was OK," she added. "We repeated those words to them. If you're happy, it's OK to be happy. If you're angry, it's OK to be angry. There's no shame or embarrassment."

You can read the full article at: http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/07/living/grief-guidance/index.html?hpt=li_bn2

How are your children doing?

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Fri, 02-08-2013 - 4:15pm
(((HUGS))) momma336, I'm so sorry about the loss of your daughter.

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Fri, 02-08-2013 - 12:22pm

I think the hardest thing for me was speaking to my girls about our loss.  They were so excited about a new baby.  I knew as an adult I would evenyually get through it but I worried that it would effect my girls forever.  I was worried it would change their thoughts about being a mother and someday having children.  My girls were 9 and 6, we lost our daughter at 30weeks in July 2012.  We talk about the baby often now and they are doing so well.  I think they really helped my husband and I get through it too.  Just so sweet how they talk about her.