Pregnancy after Placenta Abruption??

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Pregnancy after Placenta Abruption??
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Tue, 10-12-2010 - 3:29pm

Hello, I just recently lost my son born stillborn at 34 weeks and the cause was Placenta Abruption...I have spent the last few weeks looking for answers not sure I will ever understand?

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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 6:24pm

I'm so very sorry about your loss.

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Mon, 11-01-2010 - 8:01pm

I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am about your son.

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Tue, 11-02-2010 - 11:42pm

Thank You Carol, I appreicate you taking time to share your story...I am just starting to feel better, and

Lilypie
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Tue, 05-10-2011 - 10:55pm

Hello-

My Hailey Grace was stillborn at 25 weeks due to a placental abruption.

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Tue, 05-31-2011 - 4:45pm
Thank you for your reply...and I am so sorry for your Hailey..(That was our girls name.."Haley Marie") I am happy you had a successful pregnancy. I have three other children and Nolan was our last. I wasn't sure if we wanted to try again?. But my Husband and I decided to move? in in March...just to emotional to try again. Still birth is a horrible circumstance to survive, but thats what we are, survivors!. we will see our beauitful children some day, until then..Gods Speed to all the broken hearts. Star
Lilypie
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Mon, 09-05-2011 - 4:08pm
Hi Star,

I had a placental abruption during my second pregnancy with my daughter Charlotte. I was 39 weeks and 3 days when she died from a massive fetal maternal hemorrhage. I thought I was in labour, had an NST, they said it was just prelabour stuff (cramps, braxton hicks, backache) and that my baby was fine, and sent me home. Everything subsided by the time I got home and the next day I went for an ultrasound, just to make sure things were OK. I was told the baby had died. I was induced and the next morning Charlotte was born; we found out she had a massive bleed and had lost 341 ml of blood. Had this not happened, she would have weighed exactly 9 lbs. She looked perfect and it was so incredibly HEARTBREAKING to hold her, look at her face, and know she would never open her eyes. I was tormented with thoughts that I had somehow caused this; but after months of this, online searches (the worst thing!), and the autopsy results coming back, I realized that it wasn't me. It was one of those things and it was a fluke. It could have happened to anyone and it just happened to happen to me. I won the awful lottery of stillbirth, and the more awful (and harder to win) lottery of fetal maternal hemmorhage from a placental abruption. As my doctor told me, a lot of babies (don't have exact stats or numbers for this) survive placental abruptions just fine. Mine didn't. I had a silent abruption, where I had no bleeding and other than some cramps and braxton hicks contractions and a mild backache, no real symptoms telling me to call an ambulance or that something is wrong. Nothing. In fact, I had had these same symptoms before with my first pregnancy (my son) and he was two weeks late and he was fine! WIth my daughter (Charlotte), this was the third time this was happening. It had happened at 37 weeks, 38 weeks, and now just after 39 weeks. I have since learned that this happens a lot and often there is no diagnosis until after the fact, and that it happens very quickly, according to my doctor. It is still quite a mystery but with all the blood vessels and arteries running through the placenta, it is easy to have a tear in one and that is what happened to me. We are not sure if it happened in the placenta, or in the umbilical cord, or in the wall of the uterus, but that is why I had no bleeding. It somehow got reabsorbed by my body.

Writing this, I am strangely numb and it feels like I am writing about someone else, not about myself and my baby daughter who is resting in a grave in a cemetery. It sucks and it is awful, and it hurts so much when people say they have three kids, because I know I have three, too, but only two are here living on earth. One is in heaven.

I had a baby girl one year ago, and we named her Abigail which means "A father's joy". She is truly a joy and a new chapter in our lives. She has brought us incredible healing and we love her very much. She can't ever replace Charlotte, EVER, but there is great healing in having another baby. I can't explain it, but there is. My pregnancy with Abigail was awful, stressful, and the most nerve-wracking experience I have ever had or hope to ever have. My dad died when I was pregnant with Abby and I just prayed that that was the end of a year of sorrow and that Abigail's birth would be the start of a happy chapter in our lives. It was. The first words I said (my mom told me; I don't remember!) when she was born were, "Is she alive?" Isn't that terrible? But we moms of stillborn babies know the terror, the horrifying experience of having a dead baby and it sure does affect every pregnancy you have thereafter. Our innocence is gone.

I am a much happier person these days, more than 2 years later, and life does get better. But we always carry around that profound sadness; it hits you in the strangest of places, at the strangest of times. Sometimes you expect to be sad and you're not, and other times it will blindside you and you are just overcome with grief. It's a process.

Your chances of having another placental abruption are so incredibly slim, it's almost nil. That is, if you have no genetic factors or medical conditions that contribute to clotting, etc. I didn't. It was a fluke; the autopsy report found no cause. In a way it was more scary that way, such a chance, and in a way it was better since I knew that I had no conditions that could make this happen again. Unless I won that lottery again, which I was so afraid of doing but as my doctor said, was just about impossible. I was induced two weeks early at 38 weeks with Abigail, just to be on the safe side, and because my doctor felt that going longer than that would be bad for my blood pressure and stress levels. But everything turned out textbook perfect with her. Abby was just meant to be. I don't know why Charlotte wasn't, but God meant her to have a shorter life, but to touch SO MANY people with her story.

God Bless you. I wish you all the best. I hope you get pregnant again soon, and have a healthy, SCREAMING baby in your arms to love and hold dear to you, and to watch him or her grow in love all the days of your life.
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Tue, 01-31-2012 - 10:45pm

I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet baby Nolan.

Mommy to Jackson 9/12/06, Austin 11/26/08, and my beautiful angel Andy 12/29/2007

 

Thank you beccam