Regrets

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Registered: 06-28-2011
Regrets
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Tue, 06-28-2011 - 10:49pm
We had our little angel on june 6 2011. I was just wondering if anyone jas any regrets regarding their little angel. My biggest one is that i didnt hold her before the doctors took her out of the room. I didnt get a chance to tell her i loved her or goodbye.
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Registered: 11-16-2007
In reply to: chadjg82
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 8:24am

I am so sorry.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
In reply to: chadjg82
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 10:33am
I'm so sorry for your loss. My regrets involve the pregnancy. I regret being so worried, I regret not having hope when there was nothing wrong. I regret thinking I would never bring the baby home when I had no reason to think that.

I'm so sorry you didn't get to hold your daughter, but for some, that is better. I know you'll always have that regret.

For me, I TRY to not think about what I didn't get, I try super hard to remember good things, I try to remember the kicks and how good it felt when he would move... I try to remember the ultrasounds and how much he moved around. It doesn't always work and the regrets sneak in.

The grief after losing a child is a lot like a rollercoaster. You'll have ups and downs, and every once in a while you'll be spun around... it's all normal. Come here for support, the ladies here have been a wonderful support to me.


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Registered: 12-05-2007
In reply to: chadjg82
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 12:13pm

First of all, I'm so sorry for your loss!

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Registered: 06-28-2011
In reply to: chadjg82
Thu, 06-30-2011 - 11:03pm
I sometimes feel the same way. I was so setup to have a little boy this time. We already habe a 2 1/2 year old little princess. I feel so guilty for feeling disappointed when we found out we were going to have another girl. Im hoping one day the guilt will go away.
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Registered: 04-13-2010
In reply to: chadjg82
Fri, 07-01-2011 - 12:51pm
I think it will definitely lessen, I don't know that it will ever go away. It's been just over 15 months since Landon died and the regrets I feel are definitely much less intense than they were in the beginning, but unfortunately they are still there.

I hope your guilt lessens quickly.


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