suffered my second stillbirth in one year - my babies Ethan and Julia

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Registered: 06-23-2011
suffered my second stillbirth in one year - my babies Ethan and Julia
Thu, 06-23-2011 - 6:59pm

Hi all,

I suffered the loss of my stillborn baby boy Ethan Max last year at 28 weeks and just suffered the loss of my baby girl Julia May at 30 weeks.

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Registered: 06-28-2011
I am so sorry for your loses. This was our first stillborn. We currently have a 2 1/2 year old but it doesnt make it any easier.
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Registered: 10-09-2008

HI - I am so sorry that you are suffering through another loss.

Mommy to my angel, Logan born sleeping on 2.19.09 at 28 weeks. Trying to conceive our lil miracle for over 3 years. IVF #1 = chemical pregnancy. IVF #2 = cancelled, IVF#3 (Nov '10) = BFP, Beta #1- 86, Beta #2 - 244, Beta #3 - 777. First u/s at 6w5d
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Registered: 12-03-2009
I am so sorry for your losses. :'(
I lost my son at 36 weeks to stillbirth and then less than a year later lost my daughter at 23 weeks to premature birth.
I know how it hurts, and I know how shocking it is to lose a second baby. *hugs*
Since you asked for information, (that seems to comfort us, doesn't it? I don't know why), so far we think that our son was stillborn because of an unknown chromosome abnormality and our daughter died because of pre-term labor caused by either an incompetent cervix or infection or something...I apparently was leaking amniotic fluid and didn't know it because she was born with signs of not enough fluid, including absolutely no lung tissue.
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Registered: 11-16-2007

Hi there, I was cruising the pregnancy loss boards, and noticed your post..... I am so sorry for both of your losses.

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Registered: 11-16-2009
I am so glad that you have came to this board. I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet Ethan and Julia.
I am one of the mothers on the board that has lost two babies as well. I lost my daughter Alexis Lynn in Sept of '09 and then in Oct '10 we lost our son Otis Mason. I have an incompetent cervix so we knew that there was still a chance we could lose our second baby but we were keeping an eye on everything and I was getting weekly u/s and nothing humanly could of been done to save him. My 1st loss was at 20w6d and the second was at 21w5d.
I was in complete shock for atleast 6 weeks or so after losing Otis. I remember when the grief would come it would over power me though, unlike the 1st loss where the grief was just always there lurking in my mind. After losing Otis I remember just breaking down out of nowhere and crying for hours and hours at a time just begging God to give him back to me. I felt as though it was all just a cruel joke and I would get him back sooner or later. That lasted about 2 months or so and then the good days started coming again. It was nice because I already had such a strong support system around me so they all held me up. It was very odd the difference in the feelings after the 2nd loss compared to the 1st.
Again I am so so so sorry that you are in yet so thankful as well. I know of two other women who have suffered two stillbirths in the past year or so and both of their stillbirths were caused by completly different reasons as well. I hope they will speak up soon.
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Registered: 04-14-2007

Hi...and a sad welcome to you.


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Registered: 04-13-2010
I am so sorry for your losses. There are several women here who have experienced two stillbirths. I have lost 4 babies, but the first three were at 10 weeks, then my son at 35 weeks - no known reason for the 10 week losses, and sudden severe preeclampsia for the 35 week loss.

It makes no sense why we have to go through this in the first place, but when it happens again... I'm just so very sorry for what you are going through.

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Registered: 12-27-2010

I am so sorry for your two losses.

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Registered: 11-13-2008
(((HUGS))) ethanandjuliasmommy, I'm so, so sorry about the loss of both of your babies. It just doesn't make any sense that you have to go through this for a second time, my heart goes out to you :(

Sad to say, we've seen some members over the year with more than one loss. There is a post directly below yours from iluvanimals79, she has suffered 2 losses also and they found an issue that will not allow her to carry a pregnancy.